Nah, you arent the asshole. my guess is he's really depressed, and thats why he's constantly looking to you for reassurance, but that doesn't make it acceptable. it isn't your job to make him love himself, and trying to carry that responsibility is naturally gonna be exhausting

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i feel like he should go to therapy

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You should look this up but this is reassurance seeking or emotional validation, and in anxious attachment relationships. Your bf is probably not doing it on purpose, but he is making you responsible for his emotional stability by making you confirm he isn’t bad. Instead of reassuring him, it might be better to ask “what makes you think that way?” Or “how can we work on making you feel like a better person/bf?”

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and I keep telling him that, when he's sober and drunk/high. and no matter how many times I tell him, he doesn't seem to believe it. so AITA if I'm getting tired of constantly having to reassure him?

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Either he needs therapy or he actually did something wrong

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