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“who is this diva” and really it’s just teasing men for femininity
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Anonymous 3w

who's teasing? i love me a diva, i wanna know who he is.. ie who is this diva?? 😍

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Anonymous 3w

It’s not a teasing thing. Its a genuine compliment

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Anonymous 3w

When masculinity is fragile

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Anonymous 3w

It’s the same girls speaking about toxic masculinity who subconsciously perpetuate it. Performative activism in the absence of self awareness will be the demise of our generation

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Anonymous 3w

And? It’s not usually intended in a malicious way so what’s the issue?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

People say it to women too

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

right, cuz since when is femininity a bad thing op?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

I love a feminine man. Hate an ultra masculine man. Like I’m my mind saying this is similar to telling someone they’re giving cunt or something these days

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

In my mind*

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

they’re agreeing with you, nothing wrong with femininity and it should be fully embraced, but “diva” defo comes off as pejorative and demeaning when your talking about a man

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

you’re* 🙏

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

I’m sorry but that is not how it’s meant to come across and if people read it like that I feel like it might come from the need to be seen as masculine or thinking anything feminine is bad apparently if it’s demeaning

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

You immediately getting defensive is exactly why no man is "husband material" to you

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 3w

Im sure it’s not intended as malicious, most teasing is really lighthearted. You see “who is this diva?? 😂” commented over and over again on a post of some random frat guy dancing, or when a guy does the slightest feminine thing to point it out and exaggerate it… Femininity isnt inferior, but we still treat feminine men as a caricature compared to masculine men. There’s no issue with saying it, it’s just after a while, you start to notice a pattern… 👀

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

I think that’s just how you see it tbh. I don’t view femininity as inferior to masculinity. That comment just makes me think “ a guy who could be one of the girls” if that makes sense….

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 3w

was this the topic

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 3w

it’s probably the “are you laughing at me or with me” situation. Ive heard “who is this diva” from people who are clearly trying to make a joke. It can come down to how you interpret it but the facts are society does have that history of teasing men for being feminine. Maybe if you look at the overall trend of how the phrase is used on men, and not one-off moments, you would see that in some way, we are both right

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

I get what you mean. There is a trend of teasing feminine men. Regarding the “who’s this diva” comment specifically, I’ve just always seen it in a positive way. Especially because girls also use it for girls. But I get you

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 3w

literally this productive dialogue we’ve had is so rare online these days likee the way we did that

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