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AITA: My (23F) boyfriend (20M) is insecure about my partner (27M) 27M: S 20M: G MORE IN COMMENT!!

Anonymous 15w

Does G know the extent of your relationship with S? If yes, then NTA, otherwise maybe. Either way I don't like you

Anonymous 15w

I don’t think yta but like #1 is saying you need to have a convo with G abt what he wants in the relationship and what you want. It’s hard to be with someone who’s insecure and obvi want to fix that and considering his monogamous there may be some conflict just in how you both are viewing the relationship or if he thinks you like one more than the other (idk much abt poly relationships j feels like sm that might happen idk)

Anonymous 15w

I’ve been seeing S for about three years now and knew him two years prior to that. He helped me out of an abusive relationship by being a supportive light in my life. Me and him are poly. Started dating G a bit over a year ago, and he is monogamous. HE KNEW ABOUT S GOING INTO THE RELATIONSHIP!! G has now started staying with me full-time, and I visit S 1-4 times a month. On the times I do get to see S, G will text me a lot asking what we’re doing and things like that.

Anonymous 15w

Poly people are so weird

Anonymous 15w

Lmao you’re weird ash. YTA

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Anonymous 15w

Polyamory is asking for an Open relationship. I never understood the concept of one because it’s essentially asking “Hey, can we cheat on each other but still love each other one on one” with consent. That doesn’t make sense. If you don’t want to be the person you ask to have a polyamorous relationship with, just don’t be with them. I just fail to understand the concept, no hate to anyone.

Anonymous 15w

nta, I think you should have a sit-down conversation with G about what he wants long-term and why he got with you knowing you're poly and have another partner while being monogamous himself. I don't know you or S or G, but G lowkey sounds kinda manipulative and like he might be trying to change who you are. then again, I hate men and always see the worst in them, so take that with a grain of salt

Anonymous

OP 15w

Today, G called me THREE TIMES during my night with S, saying he was just worried, but didn’t bother to text me first (he knows I hate calling without warning). I feel frustrated and I came home to him being grumpy again.

Anonymous

#2 15w

Everyone knew all information before going into this, yes. Could you elaborate on not liking me and if it’s personal preference or if I’m being a shitty person

Anonymous

OP 15w

I don't really like polyamory. Don't have a great reason, just opposed. You also don't sound like a great person if I'm being honest. The whole thing about being grumpy because of your boyfriend's discomfort kinda just paints you in a bad light in my eyes. I have some issues stemming from past relationships, so I kinda just dislike anyone who gets upset over their partner's boundaries. I don't know all the details and I don't know you so maybe I'm wrong, but thats the vibe I got.

Anonymous

OP 15w

also the part about not liking you in my original comment was mostly a joke

Anonymous

#2 15w

Ohhh okay (I’m really bad at tone, especially online, so I’m sorry for misinterpreting!)

Anonymous

#2 15w

I can entirely see that. I was frustrated when I made the post but G hasn’t set any boundaries in regards to me seeing S. I know he isn’t the happiest about it but maybe a more in-depth conversation is in order, even if it will be uncomfortable. You’re right, I was selfish last night, and I’m grateful that you called me out on it so I have a chance to make better choices moving forward.

Anonymous

#4 15w

Facts bro 😭

Anonymous

#5 15w

some would saay it's weird as hell to insult someone bc you don't understand something about them

Anonymous

OP 15w

Good on you for being able yo reflect and learn from your actions, many people can't take accountability like that. A conversation on boundaries is definitely a good idea, especially if you want this relationship to last

Anonymous

#3 15w

Stop normalizing polyamory

Anonymous

#4 15w

stop being hateful just bc it's not for you. what other people do is none of your business

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Anonymous

#3 15w

Hmmmm it’s almost like they posted about it online. Your comment is invalid. Also, calling them weird isn’t being hateful when they are asking for opinion.

Anonymous

#5 15w

they're asking for an opinion about a specific situation, not who they are. and irregardless of if it's online or not you should be capable of having basic manners

Anonymous

#3 15w

And again, my opinion on the specific situation is that they are weird. Nothing about it is hateful. People can hear that and be okay, grow up.

Anonymous

#5 15w

would like to point out that I called #4 hateful, not you. I called you weird for insulting op. and yeah, people can hear that and be okay, or they could be having a shit time of their life and your unnecessary insult could be the straw that breaks the camel's back. it's not that hard to keep harsh words to yourself, especially when you can see a bunch of other people were already being rude to op

Anonymous 15w

alr mr. temper tantrum, no need to get all fussy just bc some people have more game than you

-1

Anonymous 15w

poly relationships can have mutual respect as well, and is actually also in humanity's history so it is quite human. to be such an asshole just because someone has different preferences from you is super weird, why do you care so much about what someone else does?

Anonymous 15w

You sound like a 10 year old

Anonymous

#3 15w

You need to be bullied just as bad as OP does tbh.

-1

Anonymous

#4 15w

imagine hating that someone else is happier in a different kind of relationship than you are so much that you feel the need to bully them. go touch grass bro