AITA on Sidechat | I 24f bring my friend 18f to appointments and to run errands her family doesn’t have a car her dads not really around and always wasn’t something in return. Every Wednesday I visit my nana after class. My dad needs my moms van tm to get to an appointment

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AITA 5d

I 24f bring my friend 18f to appointments and to run errands her family doesn’t have a car her dads not really around and always wasn’t something in return. Every Wednesday I visit my nana after class. My dad needs my moms van tm to get to an appointment

Anonymous 5d

He asked me to pick her up @4 I said no bcuz she can take his car/ I have shit to do. They both seem angry that I’m bringing my friend to all her appointments. I’ve explained that I’m an adult and even if she didn’t have an appointment I’m visiting my nana after class

Anonymous 5d

Ur friend is an alr promised commitment & they’re expectin tha u’ll agree bc they have things they can control ab ur life & bc they assume family takes precedent over everythin else. If ur helpin ur friend pretty consistently, & she helps u whenever & however she can too & it feels genuinely reciprocated & ur good friends, then go for ur friend. They’re using, FROM THE LITTLE BIT THAT IVE SEEN, coercive control, which is where they’re trying to intimidate you into listenin. & it’s not fair 2 u.

Anonymous

OP 5d

My dad told me if he ends up having to take his car I’ll have to quit my job and school becase he’ll need to take mine (legally it’s in his name) I told him he’s crazy and immediately texted my mom and she appeared to be in his side

Anonymous

OP 5d

AITA for helping out a friend? AITA for not picking up my mother? What did I do wrong here?

Anonymous

OP 5d

Choose your mother who birthed you over your friend every time, you are the a hole

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Anonymous

#1 5d

My thing is that I had already agreed to take my friend and it’s a medical appointment and my mom is a last minute thing

Anonymous

#2 4d

The friendship work both ways, I don’t take her to every appointment and she doesn’t expect me to. She asks me prior to asking her dad bcuz he always wants something in return, he won’t do anything that doesn’t benefit him. She gives me gas money whenever I take her tho I don’t ask her to

Anonymous

OP 4d

Then yeah ml, they’re not being fair to u at all. This is smth u alr established w ur friend, & it’s a system that works WELL for you both. Friends help each other out, & she’s not taking advantage of u. Ur parents ARE tho, by expecting u to drop everything when ur mom can, as u said, take his car. The threats ab school & work are v serious tho, nd I suggest callin ur college & ur job in the morning 2 talk 2 someone who might be able 2 help u w ur college, & at least explainin things for ur job.

Anonymous

#2 4d

Plus, if u do that if ur dad follows thru w the threat, the college will v likely work w u in regards 2 either offering a maybe emergency dorm (unlikely but possible), or holding your spot and pausing ur credits or offerin things online for u 2 do 2 maintain ur degree. Ur job will prob accept the reasonin, or offer to hold ur position, but it looks rlly good on job resumes that u reached out nd it was outta both of y’all’s hands when it came 2 u working.