no it’s important to have boundaries and it’s absolutely important to establish those for your mental health but it also makes you a better supporter by allowing you to retain the energy you need to fully be supportive

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what number one said. also, she needs to get in therapy. you're not in the wrong for feeling exhausted. i had a friend who did that and i would go days, which turned to weeks, without responding because all the voice memos were exhausting.

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My ex used to send me vlogs on Snapchat that would range from 5-45 minutes then she would get genuinely mad for not watching the whole thing. It wasn’t always that bad, but it got worse as we dated for longer and longer. You are a part of the relationship too so you should be able to freely communicate about how it makes you feel. If she doesn’t take that seriously and honor your request for less voice notes or whatever you end up saying, she might not be fit for a relationship at this point in-

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- her life. Good luck

29

NTA. At some point as you grow up you should seek out resources free or paid, and try to better yourself which it sounds like she isn’t doing. actively trying to better yourself instead of sticking to childhood ways and behaviors. if she has no desire to change it and feels comfortable/safe in the spiraling, you need to protect you.

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nta for just wanting space but you could be ta for the way you communicate that, so just be gentle

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she needs therapy and or medication

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I once had a girl tell me, “I can’t be your therapist” and honestly she was right. I think it’s good to vent to friends a little bit but if it becomes excessive or there’s a deeper problem, I am not trained to deal with that and I’m not the help you need.

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YTA

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