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So am I in the wrong for missing my ex fiancé; first guy I ever slept with let hi meet my parents and like just trusted him; he cheated on me but I miss him and my current boyfriend understands but I feel like I’m the the wrong
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Anonymous 5d

it’s understandable to miss him but you maybe shouldn’t have jumped into a new relationship while you still had these feelings. it’s not fair to him.

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Anonymous 5d

Your boyfriend is a saint. I’d leave asap if my gf told me she misses her cheating ex

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Anonymous 5d

So cheating can be traumatizing and with that you’re experiencing grief from being in that previous relationship. I’d talk to a therapist about this cuz it’s normal to feel this way

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Anonymous 11h

hey friend i get you. my ex gf cheated on me and there were times where she hit me and worse. I missed her for a very very long time. We are truamatized, and our brains adapt esp when we experience truama and can rewire themselves. i do understand you, youre not alone. i really thing working through this in therapy would be a good option though. thats how i got through my situation.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5d

It’s more of I miss certain aspects likw my bf and I both are very open and honest and he goes “you loved him and he proposed; you get to miss the guy he was before he became the man you feared”

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

But its kinda the fact that you still think about it and feel this way is the odd part. I totally get reminiscing but this sounds like a reoccurring thing that isn't fair at all to your current relationship

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 3d

#1 is right, you should've actually healed before getting into this relationship because now you brought past baggage into your new one

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 11h

esp as women we are taught from a young age that boys will be mean to you when they like you. and psychologically we carry that with us. Even though i dont like men and im a lesbian, i still have a tendency to carry that thought with me. It becomes comfortable to have that situation, even if it is toxic. you begin to read that as love. But it is NOT love friend, we deserve better.

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