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AITA 1w

AITA for wishing my bf and i had more intimacy. he's cares abt me & has treated me so amazing but he's drive is sm lower than mine. we had sex only once and hes never given me head and doesn't like touch me down there. he's great i js feel unwanted ..

Anonymous 1w

Have you told him how you feel about it? NTA but communication is super important in a relationship

Anonymous 1w

Yes and no. There are other ways of showing love besides sex. You said his drive is so much lower than you so I also wouldn’t want to force him to do anything that he doesn’t want to. Simply have the conversation with him about it. The more people I talk to the more I realize that how cheating happens. Better to just be up front

Anonymous 1w

NTA at all it’s perfectly valid to want more intimacy just talk to him and be honest

Anonymous 1w

Nta

Anonymous 1w

NTA but how come the other efforts of showing love that aren't sexual aren't good enough?

Anonymous 3d

Takes one to know one 🤪 (I mean no harm)

Anonymous 3d

Dump him

Anonymous

#2 1w

i have and he's trying but he told me he was ready and then we actually tried to do more stuff like oral and he like panicked and it made me feel so much worse, and in the past i've never experienced this

Anonymous

#3 1w

i would never hurt him, we've talked and i've expressed i'm okay with doing it once and a while but rn is closer to never

Anonymous

#5 1w

not that's it's not good enough, but i do want both aspects yk? i'd want to feel wanted by my bf in that way even if it's jsut once and a while

Anonymous

OP 1w

Op this sounds like how my relationship was. When I first got with my girlfriend I wasn’t really ready for anything and she was. I only started being ready to do anything sexual at all after months just because of trust and anxiety and it all being very new for me (I still haven’t given her head tho because of sensory issues with taste and smell and stuff around my mouth). This works for us but if it’s not working for you then you may have to decide how much of a priority this is for you and if

Anonymous

#6 1w

You can have a relationship without it. Also it may be a good idea to have a conversation about what sex is like for him and if he feels like he’s ready and enjoying it. He might not be able to give you the sex you want, that doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you enough, but it’s up to you if that’s a dealbreaker or not.

Anonymous

OP 1w

That is fair. When was the last time y'all *did* anything?

Anonymous

#5 1w

successfully it was a month ago and that was the only time, but it was just sex nothing extra, ik it's a process so i want to be patient bc i love him but i do feel yk unattractive sometimes? it's a little irrational but it's there

Anonymous

#6 1w

thanks for this it was actually refreshing to get a guys perspective, sometimes i get in my head on yk if hes really into bc we don't do other stuff and dont have sex often but i know he does, and hes been the best partner to me so this was eye opening

Anonymous

OP 1w

If he wasn't attracted to you he wouldn't be with you. He definitely loves you, he just shows it in other ways. I know the feeling cuz I'm just like this dude lowkey

Anonymous

#7 3d

Cease, gooner