
i mean NTA i guess but i would share them if i were in that position. whenever my classmates show up and need to be caught up i always do and that’s just sort of the person i am but i understand why others would feel differently. i just know sometimes something happens or you’re super depressed etc and i like to help out if i can
yeah ig my program/school is very different, last sem we literally had a very kind person voluntarily share a drive of all their lecture notes bc even if you were in class it was easy to miss stuff bc the prof used chalk & went hella fast (the prof didn’t care, he was too lazy to upload any notes himself)
i understand that. i said it personally wouldn’t bother me and i was respectful of OP and said they weren’t the issue. don’t know why im being downvoted because i feel differently about something. also as a psych major you learn a lot about how mental illness affects functioning and so i try not to be judgemental or make assumptions which is why i said that’s something i would take into consideration personally. if they were upset it is innapropriate and i dont disagree
if the person has a mental health issue then they should go to the prof themself not try to get notes from classmates who worked hard all semester. as a psych major as well i understand that there is a balance, you have to be able to take accountability and this person clearly isn't able to
i said that’s why i wouldn’t judge them and it’s why im always open to providing assistance but i didn’t say they shouldn’t take accountability for being rude or for not seeking help earlier in the semester etc (and also profs don’t always help unfortunately). i agree with you but everybody has different standards on what they tolerate and i don’t mind it personally
I agree most of the time, but it gets to a point, you know? Like, if you’ve missed 3/4 of the lectures and my attendance has been damn near perfect minus a couple days I got sick, then no, you do not deserve the same quality of notes as I’ve taken over the course of the semester. Those are my notes I worked for, if you’re my friend and got sick one day, I’ll give you that day’s notes, but not the entire semester you skipped.
I mean I think depression is a reason not to go to class sometimes, like I get depressive episodes and miss school over it sometimes, but if it’s a constant thing then you gotta get on some medication or something, you can’t expect the world to bend over backwards to accommodate you while doing objectively less than others.
i understand. whenever i had my ‘bad semester’ bc i came back from study abroad and couldn’t readjust, i didn’t want to ask for help because i felt that i didn’t deserve it. i think it’s strong to ask for help as a result so i don’t like to turn people away. i have a different lived experience and i don’t expect others to conform to it, i simply just wanted to offer a different perspective.
i also want to clarify since i didn’t in my other response— i was unsure why i was being critiqued because i didn’t exactly say a comment that was open for discussion in my eyes. if somebody says their personal opinion because of their own perspective and it genuinely harms nobody, i personally like to leave it there. i don’t really ‘get’ the internet sometimes and i was surprised is all, so i apologize
Yeah exactly, I’m a good student, on the ball like 90% of the time, but sometimes I have a bad mental day and just gotta stay home. My professors and colleagues don’t mind my occasional absence because it’s occasional and I make up for it by contributing strongly when I am there. If you’re cripplingly depressed to the point of inability to function ALL THE TIME, you need to seek professional help with that, not blame everyone else for not lifting you up constantly.