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This girl in my lecture literally never showed up, not once. Now that finals are coming, she DM’d me asking for all my notes because she “heard mine were good.” I said no, and she told people I’m selfish and “gatekeeping education.” AITA?
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Anonymous 5w

no... report her for trying to cheat. you gonna be a bitch then you're gonna suffer the consequences

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Anonymous 5w

NTA. Send the DMs to your professor and your dean. “Gate keeping education” is hilarious coming from someone who paid to go to school and chose not to go to class. Idiots fr

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Anonymous 5w

NTA. Literally wtf. Leeching off someone else.. they’re not entitled to anything.

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Anonymous 5w

Absolutely not. It’s not your fault they didn’t come to class 🤷‍♀️

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Anonymous 5w

NTA she can drag her ass to fucking class

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Anonymous 5w

this is what should be done honestly we need to stop giving people who don’t do shit a free way to pass frl😭

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Anonymous 5w

she gatekept herself from education 😭

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Anonymous 5w

No lmao. Let her fail fr

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Anonymous 5w

it’s almost as if she had the access to learn the entire semester 💀

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Anonymous 5w

Nta. Why would you help someone who chose to not help themselves?

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Anonymous 5w

not the asshole at all. my friends and i exchange notes, but if someone who has never shown up once to class asks me for notes, my answer will most definitely be no

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Anonymous 5w

Tell that girl to kick rocks man, she paying for an education and didn’t take it seriously. NTA

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Anonymous 5w

No you’re not the asshole, I give my notes to people in my classes who I know and show up consistently if they’re sick or something, but if you simply do not b going to class at all then you don’t deserve my help lmao

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Anonymous 5w

Lmao this cannot be real

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Anonymous 5w

No you are not like brah

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Anonymous 5w

not at all wtf she is not entitled to your work

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Anonymous 5w

hell no don’t give in soldier

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Anonymous 5w

no. tell that bitch to take her ass to class and go kiss the professors ass

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Anonymous 5w

Hellll nahhh esp because you don’t even know her. The audacity

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Anonymous 5w

i mean NTA i guess but i would share them if i were in that position. whenever my classmates show up and need to be caught up i always do and that’s just sort of the person i am but i understand why others would feel differently. i just know sometimes something happens or you’re super depressed etc and i like to help out if i can

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 5w

It 100% is. I have had this happen to me

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 5w

Same. The salutatorian of my hs copied my test instead of doing corrections herself, even after I said no. Still pissed

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

why would sharing class notes be cheating? i mean in this case she’s mooching but otherwise sharing notes is normal if you’re sick or smth

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 5w

i'd agree but in this case i feel like it kinda is... still not as bad as actually cheating on an exam but either way i think most profs would still wanna know

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 5w

I had a professor that said if he saw you not taking notes he assumed you got them from somewhere else and thus were cheating and would fail you. Some are strict af and it all depends on how your schools academic integrity policies are written

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Anonymous replying to -> #12 5w

Nothing was kept for her. The gate was opened! All she had to was walk through!

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5w

LMAOOO that's so true 😭 she holding the damn key

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Anonymous replying to -> #12 5w

THE KEY SHE PAID GENERATIONAL DEBT FOR

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5w

yeah ig my program/school is very different, last sem we literally had a very kind person voluntarily share a drive of all their lecture notes bc even if you were in class it was easy to miss stuff bc the prof used chalk & went hella fast (the prof didn’t care, he was too lazy to upload any notes himself)

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

uh..ig this is an unpopular but no asking for notes isnt cheating? especially if youre gonna use said notes to study on your own. and i dont think theyre acting like a “bitch” theyre just being annoying

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

Sharing notes isn’t cheating, and it’s not cheating to ask for them, but some people simply do not deserve the notes to be shared with them

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Anonymous replying to -> #16 5w

some profs will 100% consider that cheating, i can name a few of mine that definitely would

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Anonymous replying to -> #17 5w

some profs will 100% consider that cheating, in this scenario, i can name a few of mine that definitely would

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 5w

the SALUTATORIAN?!?!

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Anonymous replying to -> #19 5w

Yep 🫥 really makes me wonder if she mooched and cheated her way to the top

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Anonymous replying to -> #24 5w

The issue at hand is that she being entitled. Depression is also a BS reason to not go to class, ask for notes, then get upset when rejected. Let’s try to have some accountability for once in our lives

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Anonymous replying to -> #14 5w

i understand that. i said it personally wouldn’t bother me and i was respectful of OP and said they weren’t the issue. don’t know why im being downvoted because i feel differently about something. also as a psych major you learn a lot about how mental illness affects functioning and so i try not to be judgemental or make assumptions which is why i said that’s something i would take into consideration personally. if they were upset it is innapropriate and i dont disagree

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Anonymous replying to -> #24 5w

if the person has a mental health issue then they should go to the prof themself not try to get notes from classmates who worked hard all semester. as a psych major as well i understand that there is a balance, you have to be able to take accountability and this person clearly isn't able to

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

i said that’s why i wouldn’t judge them and it’s why im always open to providing assistance but i didn’t say they shouldn’t take accountability for being rude or for not seeking help earlier in the semester etc (and also profs don’t always help unfortunately). i agree with you but everybody has different standards on what they tolerate and i don’t mind it personally

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Anonymous replying to -> #24 5w

I downvoted you because I’m sick of people using depression as an example for everything. I am a psychology major myself and it’s getting out of hand. You’re entitled to say how you feel online which means others are entitled to downvoting you and critiquing what you say lmao

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Anonymous replying to -> #24 5w

I agree most of the time, but it gets to a point, you know? Like, if you’ve missed 3/4 of the lectures and my attendance has been damn near perfect minus a couple days I got sick, then no, you do not deserve the same quality of notes as I’ve taken over the course of the semester. Those are my notes I worked for, if you’re my friend and got sick one day, I’ll give you that day’s notes, but not the entire semester you skipped.

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Anonymous replying to -> #14 5w

I mean I think depression is a reason not to go to class sometimes, like I get depressive episodes and miss school over it sometimes, but if it’s a constant thing then you gotta get on some medication or something, you can’t expect the world to bend over backwards to accommodate you while doing objectively less than others.

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Anonymous replying to -> #17 5w

Key word in your sentence - *sometimes.* that’s clearly not what happened here.

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Anonymous replying to -> #14 5w

i understand. whenever i had my ‘bad semester’ bc i came back from study abroad and couldn’t readjust, i didn’t want to ask for help because i felt that i didn’t deserve it. i think it’s strong to ask for help as a result so i don’t like to turn people away. i have a different lived experience and i don’t expect others to conform to it, i simply just wanted to offer a different perspective.

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Anonymous replying to -> #17 5w

i understand that perspective completely

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Anonymous replying to -> #17 5w

i understand that perspective and that’s totally valid. everybody should have their own personal boundaries. i never meant to imply anything different with my original comment, so i apologize if it came off that way

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Anonymous replying to -> #14 5w

i also want to clarify since i didn’t in my other response— i was unsure why i was being critiqued because i didn’t exactly say a comment that was open for discussion in my eyes. if somebody says their personal opinion because of their own perspective and it genuinely harms nobody, i personally like to leave it there. i don’t really ‘get’ the internet sometimes and i was surprised is all, so i apologize

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Anonymous replying to -> #14 5w

Yeah exactly, I’m a good student, on the ball like 90% of the time, but sometimes I have a bad mental day and just gotta stay home. My professors and colleagues don’t mind my occasional absence because it’s occasional and I make up for it by contributing strongly when I am there. If you’re cripplingly depressed to the point of inability to function ALL THE TIME, you need to seek professional help with that, not blame everyone else for not lifting you up constantly.

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Anonymous replying to -> #17 5w

Same here. I’ve had bad days and skipped because of this, 100%. But this should not be a reason to never show up & not try to get help from a professional.

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Anonymous replying to -> #24 5w

Don’t post something if you don’t want it to be open for discussion

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Anonymous replying to -> #14 5w

i understand that now. thanks for letting me know in your previous comment, i was just trying to explain why i said what i did so you didn’t think i was just butthurt or something :)

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Anonymous replying to -> #24 5w

Yall can prolly chill now

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Anonymous replying to -> #24 5w

I didn’t think you were butthurt. It’s hard to read people over text so I just assume neutrality unless stated otherwise:)

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

sorry lol, i was just trying to respond to everybody cuz a lot of comments were posted after i went to bed

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