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AITA because I’m no longer allowing my parents to join me in my birthday celebration and plan on celebrating by myself?

5 upvotes, 8 comments. Sidechat image post by Anonymous in AITA. "AITA because I’m no longer allowing my parents to join me in my birthday celebration and plan on celebrating by myself?"

Anonymous 6w

you ever hear about the crab bucket theory? all these crabs stuck in a bucket, and if one tries to escape and is almost out over the top, the other crabs will grab him and bring him back down to their level, at the bottom of the bucket. your family are all of the other crabs in the bucket, OP. there's nothing stupid about your plan and the conditions you have for bf are reasonable. it's a shame they're so mean. are they always like this?

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Anonymous 6w

No, you’re 100% allowed to have a day for yourself, you are a grown adult. It is not on you to make your parents see that you are your own person and deserve to do whatever you choose to for your birthday. Let’s be so for real…there are far worse things you could be choosing to do and you just want to go to a concert.

Anonymous 6w

Anonymous 6w

And, last bit of context I forgot to add; my boyfriend only isn’t coming because he has to work that day and since he lives on the other side of the state, we’d have to make a weekend of it and he’d rather I go and enjoy myself

Anonymous 6w

Anonymous

#1 6w

Honestly, yeah, and it’s only gotten worse since I got accepted into college about a year and a half ago. But this incident in particular was what really set me off since the concert was the only thing I could look forward to for over the summer since they’re having me work 3 jobs over the summer to help cover tuition costs for next year (so I’d be working six to seven days a week with up to 12 hour days)

Anonymous

OP 6w

Keeping you busy and working is just another way to control you. I would start working on an exit plan. Save as much as you can (using your own bank account no one else has access to). Make sure you have access to documents like your social security card and birth certificate if you don't already. Get a safe and don't tell anyone the passcode, use a friend's house if you can't keep it discrete at your place. Maybe all of this sounds strange and overkill but I think it'll pay off later.

Anonymous

#1 6w

I have had to escape my abusive childhood home and an abusive relationship so I learned ways to get out fast. You got this. It's going to suck but it's going to be so awesome when you're finally out of the shit.