Anonymous #1 14h

Im fucked

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Anonymous OP 14h

I mean it sounds like you need to cut her off but being alone might be hard to sit with?

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Anonymous #1 14h

It’s just hard being with her. Not in a bad way but in a way where it’s more effort for less result. But I missed my window to join Greek life so idk what else I can do to make friends

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Anonymous OP 14h

So that’s exactly it! A relationship is not a functional one if it is work to be around her. Greek life has a big social opportunity in it but it’s not something you need. I think you should learn how to be okay with being alone.

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Anonymous #1 14h

I am ok being alone, I have been most my life. But I don’t wanna keep being alone. I want to make friends but I can’t get drunk at bars or go to parties, my career depends on it

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Anonymous OP 14h

maybe ending things with her and focusing on urself is what’s better. find new hobbies to be in new environments to meet new people, even if u aren’t in greek life join clubs, go to campus events! i fixed some ppl to talk to me lol when i could tell maybe they were lonely or didn’t have friends either. be an extrovert 😊

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Anonymous #2 14h

forced **

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Anonymous OP 14h

You don’t have to get drunk or go to bars to meet friends. I don’t think I have ever been friends with someone i first met at the bar. If ur not afraid of being alone what is holding you back?

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Anonymous #2 14h

I’ve gone through myself too many times to count and apart from being less scared to meet people, I think I’m like 9/10 mentally. I really love her too but our schedules conflict or I don’t wanna be too pushy or anything. Like every time I wanna go back to my dorm and just spend time but I never wanna make her do something she doesn’t want to do

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Anonymous #1 14h

My school just doesn’t have any “normal” clubs or events anymore, it’s full of either super outgoing happy go lucky assholes (sorority bitches) or camp counselors who are there cause they have to be

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Anonymous OP 14h

i’m really sorry it sounds like you’re stuck and ik how that feels all too well. i would say definitely start with what’s easiest, as you already have these feelings it’s obvi best to break up with ur gf, then figuring out everything else will come with time. you gotta go one hurdle at a time

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Anonymous #2 14h

But she’s kinda the only thing keeping me going rn. Like if she goes then I don’t have anything to look forward to in the near future

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Anonymous OP 13h

well it’s either she’s the one keeping you going or it’s hard to be with her and u feel like ur wrong relationship. thats the decision you have to make

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Anonymous OP 13h

When you say it’s an “uphill battle” what do mean exactly

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Anonymous #2 13h

It’s both, she’s keeping me going but sometimes trying to do things I want without sounding like a controlling guy is hard. I always air on the side of caution with her cause I don’t wanna be labeled a rapist (it’s a problem at my school) but what else can I do. Like if I had the option I’d chose to spend hours with her when we both are drunk and on a honey pack, but that’s too much

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Anonymous #2 13h

well said fr

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Anonymous #1 13h

Read my answer to 2 cause that mostly explains it

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Anonymous OP 7h

I think you need to do some real reflection and make a difficult choice If she doesn’t want to or isn’t always down to do physical stuff plus alcohol/honey pack, then you just have to respect her. Some people don’t involve alc because of serious personal reasons. You can totally find someone that is compatible to you and wants to do what you want to do. It might be easy, it might be difficult, no way to tell. #life But you would need to step outside to find said person and/or maybe friend(s)

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