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how long is long enough to justify send a “why are you ignoring me” text to a close friend??? actually losing my mind here
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Anonymous 3w

have you tried “is everything okay” yet

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Anonymous 3w

don’t phrase it like that accusatory bc then they just deny it and get defensive

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Anonymous 3w

Anytime. When someone ignores me I take the hint and leave them alone permanently

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Anonymous 3w

A few days in nothing. They’re probably exhausted from traveling and ease up a but

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

i asked her how she was doing/how the end of a trip she was on went a couple days ago and haven’t gotten a response

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

it’s been 2 weeks since her last text to me, which is not normal

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

i’d ask again if something’s wrong just in case

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

well yeah. but i still don’t know timeframe wise i should wait

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

usually stuff like this is about something going on with them not you

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

good point. she just usually comes to me about stuff like that, which is why i’m so confused

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

yeah i wonder if it’s something she doesn’t know how to talk about or doesn’t feel ready to talk about

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

i’m asking a mutual friend of ours if they’ve heard anything that might be the reason, but i’ll probably send another text to her tonight

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

i think for the purpose of settling your own anxiety its okay to say something like “i’m a bit worried about you as it’s not like you to not text for so long. i’m wondering if you’re okay or if you’re upset with me for something. thinking of you, hope you’re okay”

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

could also add “would love to see you/talk to you soon”

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

thank you for the advice kind stranger <3

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

<3 <3 <3

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

they said 2 weeks tho

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

I mean since they got back from the trip

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

Also sorry but I’m not texting people when im on a trip like I’m busy being present

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

it’s been a week since she got back. and she was giving me daily updates of the trip until right at the very end.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Ok that that’s weird um did you check if her flight came in? I think it’s smart to ask the mutual friend and reach back out to the girl if you can’t get any info

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

our mutual friend has talked to her, so i know she’s back home. i did end up texting her again asking if everything was okay, both with her and with us. hopefully i hear back soon

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

good to know she’s home, i didn’t even think of that

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