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Would I be in the wrong to continue seeing the ex of an acquaintance?
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Anonymous 1w

yeah that's fucked up

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Anonymous 1w

If you hang out with someone I feel like that pushes the boundary of acquaintance to friend territory. It goes against girl code to go after a friend’s ex. Honestly, if I found out someone I was hanging out with started dating my ex I’d cut them off completely. If you feel guilty about it now, which I’d assume you do if you’re posting about it, then you already have an answer. My best advice is to sit down with the friend and ask her if it bothers her and if she wants to continue being friendly

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Anonymous 1w

I only started dating the guy months after the breakup and it’s more he asked me out cause we have the same interests. Plus with that acquaintance I’m friendly with her and do hang out if we see each other but we’re not completely friends but I don’t want to potentially cause issues if me being with her ex is a problem

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

I know her ex asked me not to say anything yet about us cause he doesn’t want to cause issues yet and I agreed but was still going to like check in to see if she’s over him or if she’s okay with us hanging out together or potentially dating

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Girl… if he wants to keep you a secret there you go. Stand up for yourself honestly especially if you think she’s not over him it’s sounding snakey lol

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

It’s something that kind of happened and it’s not like I was there waiting for her ex but I still don’t want to feel like a bad person breaking girl code

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

He said it’s more cause their mutual friends are mad at him and hate him and he doesn’t want me to say something cause they’re already hating him and he doesn’t want me dealing with it right now until we’re more established cause then if it doesn’t work out then he doesn’t want me losing a friend.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

It doesn’t sound like it’s worth it if it’s making you feel like a bad person. Boys come and go and you can easily meet another guy. Your morals and self worth are only something that you can decide. Personally I wouldn’t want to be kept a secret no matter for how long. It feels disrespectful. How long is he planning to keep it a secret? It’s going to suck breaking things off but it would suck so much worse for your friend if she felt betrayed (and probably will if you go public)

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

I think it’s also important to keep in mind that while it just happened for you he totally might’ve been plotting on you for a second. You can never read people’s minds. My best friend’s ex tried to get with me a few days after they broke up and I never would’ve gotten that vibe from him ever. I know a couple single and cute boys if you want I can dm you their instas 😂

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

Thanks. Honestly I really don’t want to potentially ruin things if she really does see me as a friend.

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