Ask Anything on Sidechat | Why is the concept of making small sacrifices for the benefit of others so inconceivable to people? Is it truly that outrageous to put the tiniest amount of effort into making someone else’s day just a bit better; to show even a smidge of compassion?

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Why is the concept of making small sacrifices for the benefit of others so inconceivable to people? Is it truly that outrageous to put the tiniest amount of effort into making someone else’s day just a bit better; to show even a smidge of compassion?

Anonymous 4w

lots of people are tired and or depressed

Anonymous 4w

I feel like as people realized they could prioritize themselves the pendulum swung hard the other way. Like there’s an idea of sacrifice and duty in our culture, but learning that you’re also deserving of happiness made some people care about only THEIR happiness in a way that’s like. More socially acceptable now

Anonymous 4w

for Americans? yes.

Anonymous 4w

I think it depends on who the sacrifice is for. Some people really don’t deserve the smallest favor ever from you and yes, other people will know this person differently, but each person’s experience is different with each other person. It’s like when r@pists are excellent community members but to their victims they’re still monsters. Obviously this will be to smaller degrees but each person’s experience is valid even if we don’t understand it.

Anonymous 4w

People need Jesus man

Anonymous

#5 4w

This is it. Like yeah you should be kind to yourself, but also being kind to others wouldnt hurt in the slightest lmao. But saying that to some people is sacrilege to them

Anonymous

#6 4w

I think it’s a doom spiral too because I believe people who are kinder and self-sacrificial end up being happier. So if you’re not, you get more depressed, so you fend for yourself more, more depressed… also depression means you just don’t care in general. Sympathy disappears

Anonymous

#4 4w

I’ve seen all that in my life anyway

Anonymous

#7 4w

Now in terms of sacrifices for society (being nice, recycling, helping a stranger) I think we can’t always judge. People are going through a million things and at the moment they just may not be able to do that small sacrifice and that’s ok. We may not all be able to buy a homeless person food because we don’t have for ourselves, or maybe I can’t recycle for a period of time because I’m going through something. I feel like we can’t always be too quick to judge for these more general sacrifices.

Anonymous

#7 4w

Man we mean waiting up for people, holding doors for people, respecting others boundaries, etc. obviously grander stuff if great but theres tons of ways to just be kinder day to day

Anonymous

#6 4w

Respecting other’s boundaries could be a “grander stuff” because you wouldn’t have any boundary to respect for someone you’re passing by on the street lol and yes I did refer smaller things like these- and like I said for something like the one you specifically mentioned of holding doors I would say we can’t always judge because we don’t know if that person is running late or has something very important in their mind and they’re not even conscious of what they’re doing or not doing, this is

Anonymous

#7 4w

What is referring to when I said we can’t be too quick to judge. Maybe someone can’t smile back at a person passing by because they’re really sad about something or some other personal experience or maybe even anxiety, we really just can’t judge I feel. Sure there may be some people that are just plain cold and not friendly or nice, but we can’t immediately call everyone this just because they don’t to these small acts of kindness/politeness.