Anonymous #1 14h

Bro just say you are an incel 😭

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Anonymous OP 13h

But I’m not a virgin… I’ve been in several relationships.

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Anonymous #1 13h

I don’t even hate women. I have plenty if not majority female friends. I just don’t think dating is worthwhile.

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Anonymous #1 13h

You ever try dating a dude? Ion even mean that in any sort of way you just sound like you might be gay

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Anonymous OP 13h

Yeah, I have, haha. Marginally better. I’m still disillusioned from dating. Sorry, I realise I’ve totally derailed your post, I just wanted to reassure you that my post was not from a place of hatred or inceldom

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Anonymous #2 11h

Bro its not even that, sometimes the problem itself is the lack of trust and the consistent stream of doubt projected by constantly asking “are we gonna break up”. It turns a healthy relationship into work, tiring work, when every little issue results in asking that question of course im gonna break up. Relationships are about trust and asking that signals that you dont trust your partner to not break up with you. It signals insecurity instead of love

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Anonymous OP 11h

Well said OP, can certainly agree with you on those points

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Anonymous OP 11h

And if shit really looks so bleak and you actually think your partner isn’t treating you right you should have the self respect to break up yourself instead of souring the whole relationship 😭 Its like bleeding to death vs getting shot in the head

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Anonymous OP 11h

Girls asking “are we gonna break up” all the time is the same level of insecurity as guys who are so insecure and think they are gonna get cheated on that they try and control their girl. But maybe thats just imo

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Anonymous #1 11h

Ok reading this actually has me quite intrigued, my current girlfriend is genuinely the first relationship ive felt where we are compatible in such a fundamental level and after my last i thought i was just done with relationships. Im curious about your story and dating history that brings you to this position if you would like to share

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Anonymous OP 6m

I’m really glad you have a girlfriend who you’re compatible with, genuinely. It’s hard for me to imagine being happy in a relationship. But I know it’s possible, plenty of people do it. I’m just a very lonely person in general. I used to be way more into romance, but it kind of died in me. No partner ruined it, though. Just my mental health maybe lol

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Anonymous #1 3m

But also, a lot of what I hear about relationships is the nagging, the incompetence, the lack of mutual understanding, the conflict, all without any clear reward. I’m told it’s more effort than it’s worth. But also that it’s the best thing in people’s lives. Some people are so certain about their partners, but then it falls apart. Nothing is infallible, and it’s hard to accept that it’s worth it to try.

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