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I’m 20 and only just had my first kiss with the woman I’m seeing. Should I tell her how inexperienced I am? I don’t want her to view me in a negative light
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Anonymous 5d

as a girl literally doesn’t matter and anyone who cares isn’t worth your time (man or woman)

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Anonymous 5d

idk bro tell me when you find the answer

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Anonymous 5d

Coming from a girl, this is what I like tbh (with my bf for 3 years now, i was his first everything) we were 18 then

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Anonymous 5d

I think you should so that she knows you might not be as confident during certain actions. As a woman, I find it pretty cute lol (i’m all of my bf’s firsts)

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Anonymous 5d

Act like you’re experienced and embarrass yourself. It’s a cannon event

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Anonymous 5d

you should let her know bc the first time for stuff can be kinda nerve wracking or difficult, and her knowing would make it more comfortable esp for you but also for her

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Anonymous 5d

Nah I think it’s fine and if the girl judges u your better off without her

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Anonymous 5d

I would say bring it up once it gets more serious so she knows how to approach it the first time

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Anonymous 5d

Honesty is the best policy every time

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Anonymous 5d

Just tell her you’re a virgin straight up

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Anonymous 5d

Tell her that this is the first time you’ll have been with someone in that way. It’ll be ok there will just be a bit of a learning curve. Good communication and patience and it’ll be fine man

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Anonymous 5d

#2 great answer

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Anonymous 5d

Noooooooo whatever u do don’t tell her that. This is coming from a man who had the same problem at first. No matter what these women say in the comments, they want a man who knows what he is doing and by u telling them that, they already expect the worse or a negative experience with you (kinda like they are doing u a favor by giving u experience). Tell her after the fact because if the experience is good, then u get bonus points, but if it is bad, then she would want to help u, if she like u fr

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5d

This ^ except we all know that often it DOES matter and sometimes you still want to be with them so assuming that’s the case just play it by ear. What is their personality? are they someone who would talk it out and be communicative and sweet or will they make it awkward and weird? you have to just base it off their personality whether to tell them or not

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5d

+++; OP you shouldn’t frame it as a confession, as you haven’t done anything wrong. Being inexperienced is more upstanding than being overly experienced

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 5d

Was he your first?

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Anonymous replying to -> #16 5d

Why would it matter? People have lives before they settle down with their person. So what if she had fun? So what if she has an ex?

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Anonymous replying to -> #18 5d

I have to say something because I just read this and it stood out as a perfect example to me. Look at this thread from an objective standpoint. All they did was pose a question that had the POTENTIAL of leading to a negative place. They didn’t say anything nasty they didn’t make any assumptions, it was just a question. We need to start really thinking about how our generation approaches things, online AND in-person.

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Anonymous replying to -> #16 4d

No, unfortunately not

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Anonymous replying to -> #18 4d

it genuinely does matter lol, and who are you to tell anyone else what matters to them?

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