
Noooooooo whatever u do don’t tell her that. This is coming from a man who had the same problem at first. No matter what these women say in the comments, they want a man who knows what he is doing and by u telling them that, they already expect the worse or a negative experience with you (kinda like they are doing u a favor by giving u experience). Tell her after the fact because if the experience is good, then u get bonus points, but if it is bad, then she would want to help u, if she like u fr
This ^ except we all know that often it DOES matter and sometimes you still want to be with them so assuming that’s the case just play it by ear. What is their personality? are they someone who would talk it out and be communicative and sweet or will they make it awkward and weird? you have to just base it off their personality whether to tell them or not
I have to say something because I just read this and it stood out as a perfect example to me. Look at this thread from an objective standpoint. All they did was pose a question that had the POTENTIAL of leading to a negative place. They didn’t say anything nasty they didn’t make any assumptions, it was just a question. We need to start really thinking about how our generation approaches things, online AND in-person.