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genuine question: does anyone actually get pleasure from being mean, or is it a habit? i just don’t understand why it’s SO MANY people who go out of their way to be assholes but it would make sense if they got something out of it
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Anonymous 1d

A lot of people think just being an asshole is the highest form of comedy, i used to hang out with this group of guys and i stopped because genuinely their entire conversational routine would be to send pictures of chopped people or talk about how someone is weird and different and shit, basically conservative teenager shit where they are spooked by anything thats not from their childhood

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Anonymous 1d

idk exactly how to explain it, bc looking back i don’t even fully understand it myself but i used to be so mean. i think part of it was just puberty and hormones but i also think a big part of it was undiagnosed anxiety/depression/ocd/adhd. i was just always tense and on edge and it turned into anger and i just hated everything and everyone pissed me off so id snap so easy

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

not to make any excuses necessarily, i should have learned to control my emotions better. but i have learned more about myself and how my mind works and im not angry all the time. i also know most of the time that when i feel pissy and snippy, it’s just because of my own emotions and i can take a step back and control it better. i am so grateful im a more pleasant person to be around and i feel bad for anyone still in the mindset i used to be stuck in

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

also (sorry to ramble) but it became such a common thing that it was just my personality to be mean honestly and then when i’d finally loosen up and be nicer, my parents would point it out and basically tease me for letting my guard down and softening up? which make me just get on edge again and insecure and just be mean again

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 19h

that actually makes sense, thank you

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