Yeah, you’re not the asshole. You want something he can’t give, so it’s reasonable for you to leave since y’all have talked about it. He might have depression or another mental illness/disorder, but if he isn’t willing to try changing, he isn’t worth staying with (not saying he’s a bad person, just that you deserve someone who puts in the effort you need)

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Not if you’ve talked about it, no. I would wonder if there’s some underlying issues he has that he’s not being upfront about. Maybe it’s something you could revisit at a later time, but if he’s been adamant about not being able to change his behavior, that’s not your fault. You’ve both communicated what you want and it’s okay if those are different things.

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NTA. Sounds like a shitty situation all around, but you’re not evil for wanting someone who can be there for you. It’s okay <3

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I mean what is it that you actually want like do you want someone to talk to or text all day everyday or once a week or what exactly are you wanting

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Friend! This is not normal behavior! A significant other should not be distant in that way. We can make all the excuses we want (and believe me I did it) but at the end of the day if someone says they can’t change it, they can’t and probably won’t. Been there done that more than I’d like to admit

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