Ask Anything on Sidechat | Why are more introverted traits associated with femininity? Im genuinely curious. Im a shy man, and whenever I post anonymously asking for advice to break out of my shell, I am assumed to be a woman. Im not trying to sound butt hurt, Im genuinely curious.

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Why are more introverted traits associated with femininity? Im genuinely curious. Im a shy man, and whenever I post anonymously asking for advice to break out of my shell, I am assumed to be a woman. Im not trying to sound butt hurt, Im genuinely curious.

Anonymous 1d

most men won’t even admit to being shy/insecure/etc so that’s probably it

Anonymous 8h

Bc people see shy as submissive and that’s supposed to be a womanly trait. The same with silence- there’s the ‘strong but silent’ archetype, but that requires the strong part. For the most part being a quiet person is seen as less bold, and therefore less masculine. Seen but not heard type shit Tl;dr sexism. Sexism hurts us all

Anonymous

#1 20h

I can get men not wanting to admit insecurity but I mean I’m pretty sure people can tell if a man is shy or not

Anonymous

OP 18h

well yeah, but a lot of guys won’t go asking for advice on shyness because it hurts their pride or something

Anonymous

#1 18h

That’s fair, but then it just loops back around. Why is shyness/introvertedness seen as something bad?

Anonymous

OP 18h

i think it’s because men (at least the ones i know) want to be seen as big strong tough guys who aren’t affected by shyness and stuff like that. but that’s just my speculation