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Is 25 and 19 too big of age gap?
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Anonymous 34w

Yeah. Here’s why: At 19 one is barely out of high school. Cannot drink (legally). Cannot go into many clubs or bars. The 25 year old, on the other hand, has been drinking and clubbing for 4 years. Likely out of college and in grad school or working. Two VERY DIFFERENT stages of life. Too incompatible in my opinion

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Anonymous 34w

Yes

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Anonymous 34w

Yeah I did this, it was fun but if you want it to be serious you can’t ignore that you are both in very different stages of life and your goals probably don’t align which can make things feel pointless down the road

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Anonymous 34w

Not really imo

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Anonymous 34w

Yes.

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Anonymous 34w

it bothers me that people can't answer this without making a bunch of dumb assumptions

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Anonymous 34w

Yes

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Anonymous 34w

Yes because why tf would you want to date a 19 year old as a 25 year old? Grow tf up.

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Anonymous 34w

nope, anyone making a fuss over 6 years between two adults is crazy lol

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Anonymous 34w

Nope

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Anonymous 34w

jesus christ yes. respectfully that’s like being 11 and 16.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 34w

19 year olds who have been in college three years aren't uncommon. Neither are 25 year olds who have lived with their parents their whole life

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Anonymous 34w

That sounds like a parent child relationship at that point

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Anonymous 34w

If you're actively "coaching/teaching" your partner about early adulthood that sounds like parental advice at that point

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 34w

Why does being able to drink and go to clubs matter? Not even everyone wants to do those so I really don't get why that's a factor. And like "one of them might be in school and one might not" doesn't... like I just don't see why master. Like legitimately. I'm not trying to say that these are our aren't good points, like I don't understand why they're points at all.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 34w

very different stages of life for the specific people you've described, yes

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Anonymous replying to -> #11 34w

no it isnt

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 34w

Well it becomes about how much each person has lived and experience. Up to the point when one lives away from home, one is just an extension of parental values and expectations. After college one is one’s truest self. Which is made from being away from home.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 34w

Also, if one is working while the other is in school their demands are hugely different. Imagine this: hey babe, want to grab dinner Friday night; Ohh sorry boo I can’t. I have to finish a group project and study for a midterm

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 34w

Who TF starts college at 16?! I’m sorry homie but WTF is this college full of TEENAGERS?

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 34w

A 19 and 25, six year difference is different from a 25 and 31, six year difference. It’s not the six year difference it’s the proximity to adulthood and a 19 year old is barely an adult which makes it weird.

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Anonymous 34w

There's a lot your learn from.... drinking and clubbing? And the older person *could* take advantage of the younger person.... by lying to them about.... dining and clubbing? It seems like you're really putting a lot of weight on these things and I just can't bring myself to see drinking and clubbing as that important

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