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How do I support someone who is suicidal? Please help. They called me when they were close and when I called back after my shower (because I didn't know what was happening) they didn't want to talk about it. I don't know what to do and I want to help
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Anonymous 5w

Just let them know that you love them/care about them and if they ever need you, you’re there for them and they’re not alone, despite that their brain may be trying to tell them otherwise. Sometimes they may feel like a burden so I’d reassure them that they aren’t one (if you get the sense they feel that way).

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

Thank you, I will try. It’s just so difficult because I try so hard to express that I want to be there and help in anyway but they say I can’t help. They say they don’t want to involve me because they know it can be a lot to bear but I care about them. I wish there was a way I could help them see that it’s okay to come to me for support

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

I will def try to reassure them that they are not a burden though, I just have to pray that they will believe me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

Yeah, I’ve been there. Depression is a liar and makes a person believe a lot of shit that isn’t true. Reassurance always helps but at the end of the day, there’s only so much that’s in your control. Just don’t let them push you away. They’re sabotaging themself by isolating themself like that:/

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

I’ll keep trying my best while also trying to keep it from weighing on me too much. Thanks for reminding me that there’s only so much I can do. I’ve gotten them into therapy already so I will keep trying to keep them here. I won’t let them pull away like you said. Thank you for the advice 🫶

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

That’s great! Therapy can go a long way, as long as they’re willing to open up and do that necessary work. Sometimes it just takes time and patience. (Also, I’d remember to give them the space and agency to take care of themselves too. I say that part cause I remember at times feeling like others around me had a savior complex towards me and it felt very belittling. Kind of like they say me as helpless and small, which was kinda reinforcing & enabling my low self-esteem issues/beliefs).

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

^ I wanted to add that cause no one ever really talks about it. Then again, I don’t know your friend but just something to be aware of in case.

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