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As a guy is it gay to be physically attracted to women, but emotionally so tired of their shit, the only peace you feel is hanging with the boys?
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Anonymous 1d

Not gay — this is a pretty common male experience, more related to something called “homosocial” rather than “homosexual”. It is how members of a gender interacts among their own in a non-sexual way. It’s more of a sociological/anthropological term.

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Anonymous 1d

I think both men and women need to step back from the whole gender wars and acknowledge that men and women aren’t monoliths. It’s never “all women” or “all men” when it comes down to it. Think about how or what you do when you meet these women, what are you looking for in a person, where would you be able to run into someone on the chiller side. Likewise for women who want to meet the right guy. It’s normal to feel more at peace with people more similar to you.

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Anonymous 1d

It's only gay if you're having romantic or sexual feelings about them, because that is the definition of homosexuality

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Anonymous 1d

That’s kind of gay bro. Biologically we are wired to crave the drama women bring.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

That being said, it’s still rooted in misogyny. That fact can’t be helped. Everyone, man or woman, is bombarded by patriarchal and misogynistic messaging just by existing in a society that follows it. So I’m not saying it’s your fault or you sought this messaging out. The idea that women are too emotional, high maintenance, and irrational would make them bad friends indeed. Men therefore seek only sex from women and companionship and bonding from other men. This is sexuality vs sociality.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

TLDR: It’s not gay Look up the word “homosocial” I’m not blaming you, just giving context (and nerding out about sociology) ✌️

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

It’s only gay if you’re not wearing socks.

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