
For me it was the burden of doing most of the parenting by myself men are not as selfless. I felt I needed to have another so my kid wouldn’t grow up alone but I decided against it cause I know that kid would hate me cause I already gave all my love to the kid I did want and I’d have no love left to give. Plus you lose all your freedom when you have a child and by that I mean the school system the financial burden the insurance the daycare losing your career choices so one was enough.
my mom jokes that "I had an easy kid why would I push my luck" but I was only easy to take care of because I was neglected and witnessed a lot of abuse so I didn't feel like I could voice my needs. Both of my parents say they thought they would have another kid but it just never happened.