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Would cooking for others to show affection fall under acts of service or gift giving?
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Anonymous 21h

I think acts of service is more accurate, since there isn’t a physical “gift” and you’re doing the service.. to expand, while yes it could be “a gift” to cook for someone or clean their house or run their errands, it’s not a tangible object that is kept or an experience or service done by someone else. So for example if you hire a cleaner instead of cleaning for them yourself, then yes it’d be a gift because you didn’t do it yourself. Now cooking although you do give them an “object” (the

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Anonymous 21h

I think acts of service. That’s my #1 giving love language and cooking is my favorite act of service to give💕

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Anonymous 21h

It might depend on the intention in my opinion. If you are cooking something for someone bc they are super tired/ hate cooking/ like when others cook for them then it would be an act of service. If you are cooking for them in order to give them a certain kind of food they like, then it would be gift giving (the focus is on end result rather than process)

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Anonymous 21h

Cooking for others is Acts of service, you are doing it with intent to serve and provide something for them out of multiple actions not just bringing food. Buying food or like if you randomly decide to bring someone food is a gift. In my opinion.

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Anonymous 21h

Service

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Anonymous 21h

I’d say that it depends. If you baked a cake and gave it to someone, I’d say that’s a gift. However, if you cooked dinner for someone, I’d say that would be a service.

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Anonymous 20h

acts if service for sure. it would be gift giving if you just went and bought someone’s food because you knew they liked it versus the act of actually cooking the food for them

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Anonymous 21h

Yes as everybody else is saying and as somebody that uses cooking as a streamline way to show affection, I'd also say acts of service

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Anonymous 15h

Does it fucking matter

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 21h

Food) you made it for them which makes it into an act of service. I hope I’m being clear 😅 I guess what I’m trying to say is a gift can be an object (whether made by you or bought) or it can be a service/experience but if that service or experience is done by you I feel that changes it to an act of service (which can still be a gift; I guess you can say an act of service can be a gift or gifted, but if a gift can be an act of service depends on the situation. Another example would be a massage.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 21h

You can give someone a gift card or give them the money to go to a spa for a massage, OR you can give them a massage yourself. If you provide them the money for the spa, you are giving them a gift, but if you are giving them the massage yourself it would be you performing an act of service that could serve as a gift. For me cooking falls into this category. You are doing something for them so it’s an act of service more than a gift BUT an act of service can be gifted loll I hope I make sense!😅

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 21h

I realize I never closed my parenthesis 😂😂 It was supposed to close after the word “situation” in the same comment I opened it in 🥲😅

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