Anonymous #1 13w

I don’t but too late, I’m addicted

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Anonymous OP 13w

It's never too late to love yourself more. Don't ever complain about this person. You choose to stay. And you deserve whatever bullshit they pu you through

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Anonymous #1 13w

yeah, that’s not how it works unfortunately. When you have a trauma bond with someone, it can register like an intense physical addiction. trying to leave causes severe withdrawals that makes the abuse feel more tolerable. I’ve tried several times. you wouldn’t know unless you’ve experienced it

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Anonymous OP 13w

you've just explained that you're actually extremely aware of what's going on down to a PSY101 level and still choosing not to leave so... good luck!

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Anonymous OP 13w

Yeah I would. That's why I said you need to love yourself more. You're making excuses for this person

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Anonymous #2 13w

I typed the same thing. I wanted to laugh at trauma bond

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Anonymous #2 13w

it’s like telling a heroine addict to quit cold turkey, it’s not that simple and you can’t just quit. you might understand one day

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Anonymous #1 13w

you can’t “love yourself” out of an addiction. When your nervous system is that tied to a person you can’t even function properly in their absence, that’s not how it works.

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Anonymous #2 13w

your ignorance is embarrassing. I hope you’re under the age of 20 because that’s the only thing that would excuse this level of ignorance

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Anonymous OP 13w

Yeah you can. I did. I decided I loved myself more. The end. I left. I loved him. I still do but I love me more. I cried so much nothing could come out anymore. Mourning my marriage and relationship

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Anonymous OP 13w

As much as you want it to get better it never does. They may love you. But they're not giving you what you need

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Anonymous #1 13w

again, you can’t love yourself out of an addiction. Idk your situation but if you simply made a decision and left, you weren’t experiencing a complex trauma bond with a. narcissist. Add anxious attachment on top of it and you have a recipe for something nearly impaired to just walk away from. Your nervous system literally will not allow it

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Anonymous OP 13w

impossible *

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Anonymous OP 13w

All I got for you is ok

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Anonymous #1 13w

Everything I said is objective. Your feelings are irrelevant to objective science and psychology

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Anonymous #1 13w

go up to a drug addict on the street and say “love yourself out of this 🩵” it’s the same thing 🤣🤣 if they did quit cold turkey there are often life threatening risks. how do you not understand this?

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Anonymous OP 13w

You can stop making things up about what you think I'm feeling. All I got for you is ok

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Anonymous OP 13w

No matter what there's people that have quit their addiction cold turkey. So you should stop that too. All I got for you is ok. This discussion is really kind of done

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Anonymous #1 13w

you don’t have enough life experience yet, and that’s ok, just stop pretending to know about things you don’t know about 🩷

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Anonymous OP 13w

And you should still stop pretending you know anything about my life experiences. You don't. You're running your mouth having no idea my age

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Anonymous OP 13w

You know where you can put that pink heart

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