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I’ve been dating this guy for a month and I’ve been on a few dates with him, and I’m spending this weekend with him. I’m a virgin and he’s not and we want to have sex but I also really want to wait til marriage cause of religion.. any advice for ya girl?

Anonymous 2w

don't be afraid to stick to your boundaries. if he isn't respectful of that, you have no obligation to stick around.

Anonymous 2w

Fuck that man

Anonymous 2w

I would stick to your plan to wait and have a very forward convo about it ❤️❤️❤️ or at the very least wait six months to see if the guy is truly committed/usually people can’t hide their true selves that long 👌🏽

Anonymous 2w

Emotionally, having sex with someone really really sticks with you especially that first time, and the stress of doing it unmarried can really weigh on your soul /mind with you worrying if they’ll stick around rather than waiting for him to prove he’ll stay with a ring ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ my own experience at least

Anonymous 2w

Especially with religion involved/I wish I’d chosen God over my man from the beginning/it’s harder to reverse out of that decision 🙏🏽 if that makes sense 👌🏽

Anonymous

#1 2w

Yeah.. I have told him I wanted to wait but he keeps insisting we’re gonna get married so it doesn’t matter and he won’t leave and I do believe him but also you never know what can happen

Anonymous

#2 2w

That’s true

Anonymous

OP 2w

Tell him to compromise and take you to the courthouse ASAP:)))) seriously though, many guys will just tell you what they think you need to hear to get what they want 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 especially only a month in, he isn’t even qualified to say if the relationship will last (unless he actually proposed/meant it)

Anonymous

OP 2w

I don’t know him or anything but I would be very cautious being alone with him over the weekend if yallve only been together a month 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 more people than you’d think are capable of very nefarious actions and if he’s being really pushy it may not be safe

Anonymous

#1 2w

Exactlyyyy he’s been engaged before (she cheated on him) and says I remind him a lot of that ex and has told his whole family abt me and stuff… but I’ve been in 2 year relationships thinking we’d get married and.. clearly didn’t yk

Anonymous

OP 2w

Not encouraging you to break up over this but would be good early on to hash out both of yalls negative experience to make sure he’s not looking through rose colored glasses/reliving his ex through you or something 👌🏽 and yall are aware of expectations/id explain that to him if you haven’t 🙏🏽 especially before bringing in sex:(((( use your experience of a long relationship not panning out 🙏🏽 sorry if im giving too much unsolicited advice/it seems he mostly needs to hear some/he’s too fast

Anonymous

#1 2w

No I appreciate all of it!! Thank you for sharing with me

Anonymous

#3 2w

Mixed signals here😂

Anonymous

OP 2w

Of course! DMs always open/but you seem like you know what you want ❤️❤️❤️ I hope he backs off 😭😭😭 then takes the steps to do right by you🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

Anonymous

#1 2w

Thank you queen!!

Anonymous

OP 2w

❤️🙏🏽👾:)))))