Anonymous #2 5w

u definitely do my best to get rid of any dynamics like that. I don’t wanna manipulate her into anything. I just want the best for her and even if that’s without me.

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Anonymous #3 5w

why was it bad for you?

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Anonymous OP 5w

Be careful though. Young age CAN come with a lack of maturity. Make sure you’re able to handle that or address that before it fucks you up if you decide to continue on

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Anonymous OP 5w

Men tend to take advantage of “younger” women they can get their hands on even if they don’t explicitly intend to or realize it The relationship was very toxic

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Anonymous #2 5w

how could it fuck me up? cause i’ve only been thinking about if this is messing her up with all of this

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Anonymous #3 5w

i’m sorry to hear that. idk if i’m like that and i don’t try to control her or anything. but what can i do to avoid that? or if you want to say examples it would really help. i get it if not cause it’s a touchy subject

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Anonymous #4 5w

yeah that’s so true. but we just both just face a lot of criticism for the gap as it is rn

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Anonymous OP 5w

I was 21 dating a 18 yo she fucked me mentally man. She was so fucking immature and couldn’t handle any situations. Turned to self harm and threats anytime we tried to have a conversation. Maybe I just had a horribly unfortunate situation though

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Anonymous #2 5w

i’m sorry to hear that. thank you for sharing that. it’s something i would’ve never imagined and that’s a crazy situation. my girl gets a little frustrated sometimes in our conversations but nothing like that im glad she’s really good at communicating when i give her space to cool down.

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Anonymous #4 5w

well, obviously no one would care then. 23 and 28 are both fully grown adults. you’re ignoring the fact that with her being 18, she’s freshly out of high school. she hasn’t even experienced the real world yet. can’t even legally drink yet (until another 3 years at that). to use that as a comparison is stupid.

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Anonymous #1 5w

is a relationship only valid and healthy if we can go and get drunk together for quality time? seems like that’s almost the opposite of healthy if you need to be able to do that. no?

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Anonymous OP 5w

i used drinking as an example to emphasize just how young she is. the fact that you targeted that one thing and tried to use it as a “jab” is telling.

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Anonymous #1 5w

#1 clearly against it. You’re both youngins barely paying taxes still claimed as dependents probably. Just be smart use protection and if things get weird you bail

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Anonymous #4 5w

“if things get weird, bail”. not even caring or thinking about what imprint he could’ve had on her, with him being someone older this lets me know that #4 do the same things, which of course is why he thinks it’s completely okay

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Anonymous #1 5w

mind you, i said “he” because i know for a fact, that’s a dude

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Anonymous #1 5w

calm down. if any relationship gets weird and toxic or whatever you wanna say you bounce. that’s dating

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Anonymous OP 5w

i’m calm? what part of anything i’ve said gave you the notion that i wasn’t calm? is it because i’m disagreeing with something you’re obviously going to keep doing, no matter what your friends or anyone else says?

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Anonymous OP 5w

this isn’t my life or my situation. why would i be riled about this lol.

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Anonymous #1 5w

idk you’re the one spam replying

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Anonymous OP 5w

“spam replying” when i’m just simply replying to comments.

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Anonymous OP 5w

all i can say is at least you have good friends to be able to tell you that it’s fucked up. your friends are better than you, obviously. but again as i’ve said in my initial statement, you’re going to do what you wanna do anyway

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Anonymous #1 5w

Dated a 19 year old when I was 22/23 you’re making it sound like we’re going on the Epstein list. Buddy you gotta relax and put this effort to like a book club

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Anonymous #4 5w

going to an extreme by bringing up epstein is also very telling. you and OP are the same. of course you guys will agree with one another. i don’t have the mental energy to explain how you guys’ pov is weird. so it’s whatever. do what you want, idgaf

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Anonymous #1 5w

this is awesome. for anyone who sees the post in the future this is the feedback i get. they act like i tricked her into dating me with candy and a white van. i’m just trying to be happy

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Anonymous #1 5w

Everyone reading your comments are really taking them to heart. You definitely don’t seem like the one with a problem here. Have a great day if you want to

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Anonymous OP 5w

thank you for this statement, OP. for everyone reading, you all will see how these two go to extremes to support their point, which further supports the point on how they know what they’re doing is wrong. from a white van (meaning pedophilia) to epstein. the jokes write themselves, i can’t make this up

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