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My friend (20tM) is dealing with extremely strict religious parents who want to force him to go to church 3 times a week and have a 7pm curfew. He hasnt come out as male yet to them either. What are effective but low risk ways for him to set up boundaries
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Anonymous 1d

Everyone in this thread is smoking something bad. Sometimes coming out is not an option. I’ve been in this situation before and I can say that you need to do two things: work on it in the moment AND plan for the future. Communicate w your parents about how you are an adult and need to live a more independent life, AND start saving money and distancing yourself from their financial tangles

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Anonymous 1d

Move out and be financially independent of them. That’s literally the only option

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Anonymous 1d

murder

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Anonymous 1d

come out as male??🙃🙃

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

He still has 3 more years of college and a full separation like that would ruin his family ties dawg

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Then he has to put up with their conditions. If he wants connection and financial security rn that’s the sacrifice. What’s more important? The security and connection or living authentically to himself? You can’t safely have both. So he has to decide. It’s not fair, it’s shitty, but it’s reality.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Your advice is actual poop bro “just give up” ahh motherfucker 😭 obviously he’ll be fine when hes financially independent the whole point was that i need to help him before that time idek why youre commenting if you dont have advice for that

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

He cant they’d make him homeless theyre strict ass catholics

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Dude

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

Idk how much communication theyre interested in but we believe the fear of him growing out of their control will make his parents compromise to some healthier boundaries

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Anonymous replying to -> frodo 1d

God i wish

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

the super conservative types aren't exactly big on compromise

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 23h

It’s sad that he’s getting so many upvotes for saying someone should just deal with borderline abuse and not set up boundaries I have no real advice that just made me sad, hope everything turns out well with him though that sounds awful

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 20h

The worst part is that its not even advice lmao. He couldve made the same point by just saying “do nothing” its so asinine

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