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How do I get women as a guy who isn’t the most attractive?
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Anonymous 20h

confidence, charm, sense of humor, emotional stability

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Anonymous 19h

Make them laugh, many times have a fallen for a guy no matter what he looked like because he was genuinely funny

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Anonymous 19h

confidence, be funny and kind (thats how my bf got me)

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Anonymous 12h

being confident, and reading boundaries well, but also going for people who find you attractive too (there is nothing worse than dating someone who doesn’t find you attractive)

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

What is confidence to you?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

Not being insecure/self-conscious

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

Damnit how do I even get over my insecurity?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

Not something anyone on the internet can answer for you. That depends on your personality, what your insecurity is, etc etc

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

I just feel unattractive and insecure because I’ve never slept with a woman

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

No one but you has that information, though

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 19h

Who

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

? I mean if your insecurity is based on you not sleeping with anyone, that's all in your head. No one knows that information except for you

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 19h

Sure but at the end of the day I really want to have sex but I just get no women

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 19h

Ohh I thought you said you know who has that information.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

If you're trying to purely have sex you need to be about ten times more charming, confident, funny, and emotionally stable than my initial reply would suggest lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 19h

Okay maybe not just purely sex but I want a woman to be interested in me enough to have sex with me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

For most guys, the immediate interest is not sexual. you should focus on getting someone interested in you generally and not try to push things in a sexual direction. guys detecting a slight amount of interest and immediately making the conversation sexual is a huge turn off and it happens all the time.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 19h

Okay I did try that this one time and now this girl is transferring and she literally posted on her story of her with a different guy. So how do I push things in a sexual direction after she is interested in me in general?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

You can't use a single time someone didn't end up with you as an example of... anything at all, really

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 18h

How did his kindness win you over?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 18h

What do you find to be funny?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17h

Okay but boom I go up to a girl. What should I say?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15h

Bro there's no one size fits all answer to approach any girl in any situation. It isn't a textbook with correct answers. That's why I said be confident and charming and funny, those are attributes that help you figure out what to say in the moment. If you come in with pickup lines at the ready then it's always going to seem insincere/creepy

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14h

Okay thank you for the advice but here’s the thing I don’t know how to be funny

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