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How do I get out and meet people? For context, I currently only really go to class and stay in my room for the rest of the day except for exercising. I am terrified of doing anything social and quite frankly I don’t have much interest in it. (continued)
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Anonymous 4w

But I also don’t want to be alone and a loser like I currently am. I have no friends or girlfriend, and I feel pathetic because of it. Whenever the chance presents itself for me to make a friend, I’m too shy for anything other than occasional small talk, and tbh I don’t think a lot of other people are interested in being my friend. Part of me wants to try going to the bar or a club or something like that but I don’t want to go alone because I’d feel stupid going up to someone or a group because

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Anonymous 4w

Might need medication for social anxiety

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

I’d feel like I’m intruding on whatever they’re doing. And I’m not very good at holding conversations either, I’m not very funny or intelligent and I can never come up with good things to talk about. I’m just completely lost and I don’t know what to do but I also don’t wanna be this pathetic loser my whole life.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

do you have a therapist/counselor/etc? this is how i felt before treating my social anxiety

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

Thinking about it but last time I had one it felt like a chore and I don’t think I got much from it

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

I think I need more than medication

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

I feel that. The first one I had wasn't a good fit and it was hard to imagine getting anything beneficial from a new one after that. If there's anything that feels niche that you're looking for, psychologytoday.com has awesome filters

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