
Hi OP, generally it is said that women experience an organism like a machine gun as smaller and more repeated while a guy a as a revolver as fewer but more profound pleasure. However, some argue a women can be primed to get pleasure like a man as fewer and more profound through foreplay or rough sex. The key is for both to be focused on each other and not drift mentally.
Some say that rough sex is a shortcut and for a woman to be primed is to be on edge which has her focus and being on edge makes her more sensitive due to the fight or flight response. This shortcut has safety issues and makes sex into a drug because the focus is on the act rather than being real intimacy. The pleasure a woman gets will be like a guy and get the pleasure at the same time as the guy.
With foreplay, it’s both partners knowing what each other likes and they become primed. It differs from rough sex because it isn’t focused on an act that is addicting but it’s sharing and caring and the intimacy has them primed and they’ll get the pleasure. The problem is this takes skill and time and both sides to care and often people want to take a shortcut.