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how do I want to commit to a relationship again? like I know I want a relationship long term, but I just can’t see anyone loving me enough. maybe I need to heal more trauma first, but idk. I just kind of feel tired of dating
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Anonymous 1d

Personally I realized that the people I attract and the people who attracted me made for inherently unsustainable relationships. After several cycles of bloom, burn, wane, wilt; I decided I needed time to heal. I’m trying to get back into it now but I feel so, so lost.

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Anonymous 1d

if you can’t love yourself yet you can’t love others yet, so many important aspects of relationships are based on mutual trust & respect for both yourself & the other person

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

I’m getting out of a long term relationship that was toxic. he still rlly wants us to get back together. and im sitting here thinking abt hanging out with him tomorrow because ive been so lonely. but I know its not smart because ive been doing better without him. but at the same time im so worried i wont be able to do better than him

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

I mean I never said I didn’t love myself lol. I agree with this entire statement completely. I can’t find a guy that I like that would align with this statement as well

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

i’d recommend trying therapy, but in the meantime try to examine what attracted you to those people and find other ways to obtain it, ex. if they gave you a lot of attention & encouragement, try giving yourself the same treatment

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

I understand loneliness. If you wanna see him again, you should. But if he makes you feel small inside, dump his ass. I know you deserve better.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Yeah I’ve been in intensive therapy for years.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

deserve better treatment, yes. what about me is worthwhile of a better person to date? and can I even fricking find one?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

me too

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

ive been in therapy

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Every person in this world is worth more than a relationship that wears at their soul. Unfortunately I am also looking for my person and I don’t have much advice for finding them. I do have hope and encouragement though. I believe with all my heart I will someday find my people.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

I’m hoping I find my people. thank u for thinking similar to me on this. you’re an amazing kind soul as well💛

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Best of luck 💜

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