Ask Anything on Sidechat | genuinely when someone says they don’t want a relationship but a fwb and can do almost everything like a relationship how do people not get feelings? like how can you cuddle and have deep conversations w/o feeling any interest?

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genuinely when someone says they don’t want a relationship but a fwb and can do almost everything like a relationship how do people not get feelings? like how can you cuddle and have deep conversations w/o feeling any interest?

Anonymous 4w

I think in that situation one person usually does catch feelings and the other person is in it for the sex

Anonymous 4w

For me it’s like a logistics thing. I like them and want to be only fwb cause I know long term they aren’t my person because of life goals or just certain core aspects or I’m not ready to have something more serious and I’d rather focus on other things than a relationship

Anonymous 4w

That's why that shit is bullshit. You're answering your own question. It's literally an excuse to not commit. But you're really committed. It's playing games. Someone ALWAYS catches feelings

Anonymous

#2 4w

like i understand that but like to me that’s just wasting both of our times when we could be finding the person that we’re meant to be with or just working on ourselves, idk if that makes sense

Anonymous

#2 4w

also no hate to the people who can do fwb, i just can’t and don’t understand how people can

Anonymous

OP 4w

Either that person is a heartless sociopath which is rare, OR they've been hurt so bad they'd rather have meaningless sex for the rest of their lives. You're better off healing from your trauma. That person doesn't really realize they're cheating themselves. They're really no good to themselves or anyone else

Anonymous

OP 4w

You can still look for your person while in a fwb that’s the nice thing about it and you just break it off with the fwb if that’s the case

Anonymous

#3 4w

Yeah no you’re wrong. I’d rather have a fwb situation if I can because I like a guy once in a blue moon so it would be years without sex and connection if I dont

Anonymous

#2 4w

Why would you suggest some shit like that? That’s how you get caught up and fucked up ass situations

Anonymous

#3 4w

You can catch feelings but know they aren’t your person

Anonymous

#3 4w

No I’m not an idiot. It’s not that hard you obviously can’t handle it and people who lie to themselves can’t but I can

Anonymous

#2 4w

If you can easily date someone then go ahead and do that but if you’re pickier that’s what fwb are to fill that space until you find someone you want

Anonymous

#2 4w

Then just go without fucking then cause what you’re doing it’s still being in a relationship for you letting the other dude go fuck somebody else and bring whatever from who he’s fucking to you how the fuck is that smart

Anonymous

#2 4w

It’s an issue when people lie to themselves

Anonymous

#3 4w

No it’s called exclusive and use protection. Have open communication and testing. This is assuming it’s a friend who you trust

Anonymous

#2 4w

And I’d rather go with fucking thanks

Anonymous

#2 4w

And your goofy ass is putting too much trust in something you shouldn’t

Anonymous

#2 4w

but do you boo keep on thinking to dude that you having sex with is only having sex with you in a generation of people that eat ass

Anonymous

#2 4w

OK, so why do that to yourself? How does that make sense putting yourself through an unnecessary emotional roller coaster