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How bad is it that my bf is 26 and I’m 18 🫣
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Anonymous 1w

Legal? Yes. Do I worry for your safety? Yes. I'm 24 and the idea of dating an 18 year old is out of the question. There's such a significant development/experience gap within just those few years. Someone that age looking to date younger is specifically wanting someone without that experience for whatever reason. I can't force you to leave him but OP please be careful and keep any sort of support lines you have with friends and family open. :(

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Anonymous 1w

If you're 23+ looking to date someone who's 18 you're weird, emotionally immature, or both

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Anonymous 1w

Because he’s a predator. Run baby

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Anonymous 1w

Your personality's can mesh and be great together, that doesn't mean you belong together. It's very weird and creepy whether or not he was looking do date someone younger. Every 18 year old thinks they are more mature for their age, you aren't and he's taking advantage of your vulnerability.

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Anonymous 1w

As long as he treats you good

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Anonymous 1w

I guess we got somebody back asking the same question. 18 IS GROWN. PLEASE STOP ASKING THIS SAME QUESTION. IS THIS A ROBOT?

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Anonymous 1w

Prime example from 4. That answer is why you need to stop asking the fucking internet what they think

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

He wasn’t looking to date that age group we just clicked

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

If he wasnt ACTIVELY looking for a gf, then it was simply ANY connection he was seeking and you just so happened to be there. YES. Its weird as FUCK. I cannot have this go understated. Yes. Yes this is weird and unadvisable. But, not inherently bad. Your bf is weird and I want you to really think about what you and him ‘clicking’ looks like. Do your interests align? Do your morals and/or politics align? Are there serious topics you’re interested in that he cuts off or is disinterested in?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

Crazy idea: OP, an 18 year old, is just emotionally immature (AS TEENAGERS TEND TO BE!!!) and trying to figure out what healthy intimacy looks like.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

All of them aren't emotionally immature. Healthy intimacy can be amongst anyone. There's no age range on that

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

26 year old shouldn't be clicking with an 18 year old. There is so much development people go through from 18-21, usually on the other end they're a bit more mature. I'd seriously question why/how a 26 year old is clicking with someone who has yet to face the world as a fully fledged adult for a good amount of time.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

>tend to be. And you don’t “unlock” emotional intelligence after ‘turning into an adult’ at 18. It’s not a matter of what’s ‘okay’ or ‘right’ in general. It’s about what’s ‘ok’ or ‘right’ for the individual [OP, in this case]

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

I think I’m a bit more mature than an average 18 year old. It was also felt by both of us. Our personalities just mesh

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Tale as old as time, best of luck

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

No shit. IDK why you feel you need to explain all this to me. No you don't. HOWEVER you could've been through so much you've developed it already. That's not necessarily a good thing either. Are you happy though? If you are no matter what you're considered grown at 18. Why are you worried how fucking old they are? What you worried about what people think? This is your life no one else's. Fuck everybody else

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

That's what anyone should be thinking. Instead of asking the world what they think. Those same people have no idea how to run their own life. But you're asking them? NOT

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

have fun being correct.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

I have. Thank you

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 1w

He isn’t

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