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Do I tell my ex who I love and want to get back with that I got diagnosed with PTSD with moderate debilitation 3 weeks after we broke up? It’s been 3 months, the ptsd was a huge part of why it ended even though she doesn’t know it
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Anonymous 2d

Pray to god and ask for stability in all endeavors possible, don’t completely shut yourself out. Spend time with friends, leave them feelings on the backburner for a bit, when you have a clear uncluttered mind, revisit what broke the relationship. Where there is faith, there is strength and it’s okay to ask a counselor what can I DO to overcome these thoughts, but God brings reward to those who come to him in the silence. Then talk to your counselor.

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Anonymous 3d

I think it all depends on your reason for sharing… Are you sharing to get her back? To guilt trip her? Or simply to share?

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Anonymous 2d

No. You need to work on yourself first

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

Working on myself has been what I’ve spent the majority of my time doing since the breakup/diagnosis. Getting back on the right track so far

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2d

I definitely do want to get back together but I don’t think that’s the reason. I think she just deserves to know, even if we never get back together. She was on the receiving end of a lot of my issues and mistakes and she never deserved that. No I absolutely do not want to guilt trip her

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

And that doesn't mean you need to go back into that person's life disrupting their healing process because you want them back. They might not want you back because of the number you did on them. Just leave them alone

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

At some point you're being selfish trying to wiggle your way back into this person's life. AGAIN LEAVE THEM ALONE

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

I’m not trying to wiggle back though. I think both things can be true at once. We basically haven’t spoken since the breakup but we were together for years. Like I want to get back together with her but that isn’t the point of telling her about it. She also told me a short while after she broke up with me that she still cared about me. If she didn’t, I wouldn’t bother to tell her

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

And you're trying to take that one shred of I care about you as a reason y'all should get together. She hasn't reached to you. Of course you're still going to care about a person you were in a relationship with. I think it's selfish still not considered how hurt the other person was. You have no idea what she had to do to move on. I'm saying this again LEAVE HER ALONE. Just reaching out to her could trigger her back into where she was

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

Yeah I mean realistically neither of us has any idea of what she’s going through. For all either of us know, this could help her, right? Wouldn’t you want to know if your normally stable partner of years kinda lost it and there was a reason?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

Let go and let God. God will guide you

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2d

Did you just tell me to let god tell her?

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