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Ladies… I just got out a a relationship where the guy never asked me for money and now I’m with one who asks me for money damn near every week. I don’t like it one bit tbh but idk what to say. Help😭
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Anonymous 4w

tf? I have never been with anyone who has ever asked me for money

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Anonymous 4w

Just say no

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Anonymous 4w

Mine was the opposite of that have a talk with him and tell him respectfully you aren’t married and might not work a full time job and can’t support him and you

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Anonymous 4w

baby run.

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Anonymous 4w

WTFF?!?! What do I say? Why isn't it no? How's this not a red flag to you? Is he your kid? It's a grown man. Do you really want to take care of a grown man that's asking his WOMAN for money

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Anonymous 4w

That’s a huge red flag 🚩 run away as fast as you can

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Anonymous 3w

Now I’m wondering what was wrong with the other guy?

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Anonymous 3w

I just started talking to the other one three months ago so I’m trying to pick up on things quicker

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

I understand (sorta) if I was asking him for money and shit. But I’ve only asked for a iPad for Christmas and 50 bucks for my hair (got both). He asks for lunch money gas money, uber money for HIS BROTHER and he wants me to buy him vapes. He asked me when am I gonna take him out and I just looked at him

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

I'll stop you right there, 100% of a the time if a guy is asking you for vapes/vape money, you're in for a terrible time lmao

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

I do😐

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

I started the conversation

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

Good proud of you 👍

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

…”honey, are you a scammer?”

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 3w

Emotionally unavailable alcoholic

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Man thats crushing. Very sorry for the both of you. Knowing this, now I’m confused: not accusing you of anything obviously, but it seems like you got into 2 difficult relationships sequentially. Did they hide their problems or struggles from you?

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 3w

The first one I knew he drank and at first it wasn’t bad at all and he would only do the occasional beer. Then He started school part time in the morning 2-3 days a week and selling “flowers” at night up until 3 am with his friends and that when the drinking got out of hand. Beer tequila, anything really. He wrecked his car one night bringing and driving and he got upset when I told him I was concerned about his habits and his friend group bc they knew he was drunk and didn’t say anything

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

“Flowers” sounds a lot like “drugs.” This is concerning, especially because he has a friend group doing this.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

What?

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 3w

To sum up your confusion the alcoholic(#1) didn’t show any flags until the second year into dating. The money guy (#2) didn’t show any flags until 2 months into talking. We are not together yet (probably ever)

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Ah okay. Yeah you definitely need to be more careful. My solid advice is to find a guy who you could actual marry and spend the rest of your life with. If that’s not your intention of getting into a relationship, make sure both parties (you and whoever you find) know each other’s plans and intentions. 👍

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