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i think this guy in my class is cute but i’m not that direct of a person. he sits across the room from me so we don’t cross paths much and i’m too nervous to randomly walk up to him. what should i do?
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Anonymous 9w

All of these ppl not bein real w what would work for social anxiety. Eye tag. Get confident being able to look at ppl. Play eye tag until it’s not eye tag anymore, until it’s just you looking at a pretty piece of art and you don’t mind if the art sees you looking at him bc u want the art to see you. (Eye tag until u know how to hold eye contact) it will be natural from there

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Anonymous 9w

make sure he doesn’t have a gf first

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Anonymous 9w

the classic: give him a note with your phone number

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Anonymous 9w

if ur somewhat confident i think js going up to him after class, introducing yourself and asking for his insta would b fine 👀

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 9w

i asked for a different guys phone number a while ago and i got rejected but he was really nice about it so i’m scared

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9w

this saves you from asking though, it puts the ball in his court

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 9w

i’m scared he’d just pity me and take the number but not say anything yk

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9w

Even if that happens, all you’ve lost is the hope

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 9w

that would mean there’s no chance though right?

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 9w

Ofc the advice to balls up and just ask is definitely better, but ik I used to be too stubborn and this is what actually not only got results, but helped my confidence in the long run even if it didn’t work in the moment it helped down the line

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 9w

we are currently playing eye tag but i always look away even though he doesn’t

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 9w

yeah i did that with someone else that i liked and the build up was nerve wracking but it felt good to get it off my chest

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