wing_leader on Sidechat | I believe that trust and communication are the foundations to a healthy relationship. If I have to ask to look through your phone then I can’t see myself with you. Thoughts?

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wing_leader

I believe that trust and communication are the foundations to a healthy relationship. If I have to ask to look through your phone then I can’t see myself with you. Thoughts?

Anonymous 8w

I agree, my last relationship ended because we didn’t communicate, it’s a shame because everything was great

Anonymous 1w

I understand wanting to be able to trust someone. It’s a case by case situation I think. I mean, in a world where there is virtually no privacy except the privacy we try to create for ourselves and us being so connected to our phones… sometimes it feels like what we have on our phones is the last safe haven for all of our most private pieces of ourselves.

Anonymous 8w

So do you want to be offered his phone to see through? I agree trust and communication are a must but the phone part threw me off

Anonymous 8w

How far into the relationship? ASAP? Or like within a few months? What’s the timeline?

Anonymous

#1 8w

I’m sorry to hear that, communication is definitely important. I’m just having a hard time understanding why some people that I know or people I’ve spoken to, told me that they can’t give their partner their phone… and I’m like what? Why?

Anonymous

#2 8w

I believe once a relationship is established for both parties. I don’t believe in looking at my partner’s phone at all. What I’m saying is, I don’t want to feel like I have to. The trust is just there.

Anonymous

wing_leader 8w

Ohhhhh gotcha. Like you don’t want that slight hunch. Understandable. That’s something you can EASILY sense. I totally get it:)

Anonymous

#3 8w

I see the confusion. No, I don’t believe in looking at my partners phone at all. If my man starts acting off if I try to add a song to a playlist while he is driving, or check the time on his phone and he tries to grab it from me or if he is walking out to take calls or text someone on his phone then that’ll make me feel he is hiding something from me. I don’t want to feel like I can’t trust my man and have to feel the need to ask about his phone. Make sense?

Anonymous

#2 8w

Exactly 🫶🏻

Anonymous

wing_leader 8w

I gotchu wing😉

Anonymous

#4 1w

However. If there’s a sudden change up in behavior, or there’s specific behavior that you know is not aligned with who they are as a person when it comes to their phone, then yes these can be red flags. If I can’t trust someone and feel the need to go through their phone then I’m going to take that as a sign that I really shouldn’t be with them in the first place.