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would appreciate any advice
22 upvotes, 27 comments. Sidechat image post by Anonymous in Ask Anything. "would appreciate any advice"
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Anonymous 4w

I’m aromantic and asexual. You can still love someone very deeply, it’s just a different type of love. The amount of care you feel for the other person is still the same. If you are invested in the relationship, you should google more about aro and ace people before making any decisions

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Anonymous 4w

Then she’s not asexual, she’s aromantic; asexual have no sexual desire whatsoever and wouldn’t want to have sex at all

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Anonymous 4w

asexuality is a spectrum, Some ace people still have sex and even enjoy sex, but they dont experience the same sex drive / desire for sex that others do. Talk to her, ask her questions, try to understand her better and support open communication between the two of you

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Anonymous 4w

If she likes sex she’s not asexual

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Anonymous 4w

So you want keep going without sex?

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Anonymous 4w

#breakup lmao she is aromantic keep having sex sure but why bother staying in a relationship w someone who admits they dont love you that way

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Anonymous 4w

You’re game in bed is just ass

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Anonymous 4w

Work on having a deep personal relationship with her and gradually, it’s possible she’ll change. Sexuality is fluid throughout life

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

okay but like what do i do gang is it worth trying?? i love her and i wanna stay with her but i don’t know if it will hurt me more in the longrun or not. it’s just hard for me to wrap my head around the fact she doesn’t feel a romantic connection with me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

It’s only worth it if you believe her to be worth it, you’ll have to accept that you’ll never graduate past a familial kind of love

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

honestly idk if i could do that… i want my feelings reciprocated… but yet again idk if i want to move on through life without her

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

please move on, you deserve to be fulfilled and loved romantically

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

i know i probably should but i genuinely don’t know if im attractive enough to get anybody else. and i still love this girl as she’s my first everything and idk how im supposed to heal properly from breaking up with someone

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

life is too short to settle. my first bf was my first everything and i thought we were getting married. but i was tired of crying and being unhappy. you're stronger than you think.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

yeah you’re right.. i’m literally a freshman i don’t wanna waste my time

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

keep ur head up king. you got this

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

we shall see

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

That’s is not accurate. Asexuality is a spectrum. People who are asexual experience little to no sexual attraction but may still choose to have sex for other reasons.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 4w

nah , dont bet on potential. dont try to change or fix people. OP, DONT waste ur time waiting for ppl to change because they might never change

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 4w

said she loves sex btw lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 4w

no she wants to have sex

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 4w

yeah aromantic

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

It's never going to be as often as you though

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 4w

that’s true but 2-3 times a month isn’t terrible tho

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

It would be for me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

Hey but if you're good with that. Go for it

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

There are so many girls out there if youre a freshman cut your losses it sucks but she is not worth it. Keep hooking up sure but dont assume you will ever have anything else than thay

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