
I’m similar. Asexual but not sex repulsed. I was upfront about it with my bf before we started dating. We’ve been together 2 years and do stuff only every few months (I’m rarely interested and often have pain associated with doing anything) and he’s fine. He has 2 hands and can use them if the feeling strikes him. Hes always very communicative if he does though, not that I usually want or need that info.
similarly. im a guy and my gf and i talked it over and agreed to live a celibate relationship together. this was mainly driven by our religion. i think the difference is that we openly acknowledge that we want each other and avoid putting ourselves in positions to engage sexually.