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My (f19) bf(21) wants to get married when I'm 22. Is it bad I want to wait till I get older to get married?
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Anonymous 3w

Def not, you change so much as people and as a couple in late teens to mid twenties. It's a life long commitment and rn you've only been dating for 6 months, just worry about your future life and goals before thinking about marriage

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Anonymous 3w

I knew I wanted to marry my husband about 6 months after meeting him. We continued to date for almost 2 years before getting married at 22 & 24. However, that isn’t the case for everyone. It’s better to wait to make sure your love grows and doesn’t fade.

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Anonymous 3w

At meet my hubs when I was 21 and he was 19. We were together 3years before marriage we knew by month seven. We reaching our 5 yr soon. Honestly wait till you lived together and had to deal with everything alone. There is no rush to get married. It really doesn’t change much. It helped my fasfa in college which was nice plus.

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Anonymous 3w

you can't be srs

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Anonymous 3w

Give yourself at least three or four years together before you decide anything

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Anonymous 3w

Tell your bf to let things flow naturally and organically rather than just planning out the age in which y’all will get married. You both need to be in agreement and be simpatico with each other before deciding when marriage will occur IF it even does. Get to know each other deeply first.

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Anonymous 3w

How long have yall been dating ?

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Anonymous 3w

FUCK NO. Really at that age it's still too young

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

I mean i understand why he wants to, i just feel like it should be older

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

6 months

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

I wouldn’t necessarily say it’s bad, but you may end up changing your mind when you get to 22, if anything you can meet in the middle and get engaged at 22 (if that’s something you both want).

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 3w

👆👆👆 this. imo the only reason people want to rush into marriage is to make it harder for the other person to leave

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 3w

I agree

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