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How do I tell a dude that I’m not interested in him because his aspirations are to be an Amazon driver while I have 3 science degrees and am about to run my own startup up w/o sounding bitchy? He’s cute but I need someone with a drive that matches mine.
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Anonymous 14h

literally just say you need someone with a drive who matches yours. then he'll say some shit about needing you to open his eyes and make him more ambitious and you're going to say okay come back and hit me up when you make it happen

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Anonymous 10h

The man he strives to be tomorrow may not be the same as what he strives for in 20 years. Not everyone know what they wanna do while their whole ass life in their teens-20s

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14h

But… but… that sounds bitchy 😂

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14h

if you see your own basic expectations as bitchy then we may be identifying a more fundamental issue here girl lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14h

Like literally he just messsged me “You’re very beautiful and sound wonderful already 😍😍” and all I wanna say is “youre handsome but you lack a true direction in life” 🥺

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13h

you can just say "I appreciate your interest but I think we're at different stages in life rn" if you really don't want to be direct with him

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 13h

Ooooh that’s a good one.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 13h

Damn shame cause physically he’s totally my type.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13h

🤷‍♀️ then you hook up with him and make it clear you don't want anything more, if that's something you're into.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 13h

Yeah not me. Maybe life would be easier if it was. Alas

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 13h

How does “you're cute as hell however I don't think our long-term goals would match up, I hope you find what you're looking for”

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13h

He's going to take the compliment as an invitation to pitch the hookup lol don't give him that hope if you're not interested

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Anonymous replying to -> seafoam_dog_face11 10h

Maybe. But I’m not putting my eggs in a basket of potentials.

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Anonymous replying to -> seafoam_dog_face11 10h

Also he’s 26 and I’m 31. I don’t have time for him to find his aspirations. By 26 you better have career goals.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 19m

You’d be proud. And for him to come back with “need someone to support me” lol. Butt hurt man.

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