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i’ve been dating this guy for three years and we have been long distance the whole time. He’s never given me a reason not to trust him but there’s always this underlying feeling of could he be cheating. Idk maybe i’m crazy?
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Anonymous 3w

Long distance relationships will never work. A love from a far is a fools love. My ex and I dated for FIVE YEARS. Suddenly, one day she stopped replying and posted her new man…

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Anonymous 3w

I mean it’s possible but so are a lot of things that probably won’t happen, I’d trust your gut

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Anonymous 3w

How’s the sexting? How hurt would you be if he was jerking it to someone else?

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Anonymous 3w

i’ve been together with my partner for three and a half years. it can work and be a good healthy relationship. Do you share locations? If you ask what he’s doing is he honest? Do you know about his friends?

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Anonymous 3w

check that phone sis

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

Not something healthy couples do tbh

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

it’s been three if he has nothing to hide why can’t he just reassure her?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

If you aren’t stealing from your job then why can’t your boss just check your car whenever they want? Since you have nothing to hide?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

It’s just not healthy to treat people like they’ve guilty when they’ve given you no reason to think they’re guilty. Assume innocence unless you have reason to think otherwise, that’s just part of building trust.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

It hurts to be not trusted even though you’ve only been trustworthy, there’s harm in that

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

i feel like this is different because there is no deep personal connection

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

but if he were to get really upset over her checking his phone i think that’s a sign of a bigger issue

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

I disagree. If he’s never done anything suspicious I think he’d be right to be offended that she wants to go through his phone, it is her telling him that she doesn’t trust him. That is a boundary for a lot of people and it’s important to respect those boundaries

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

And what do you mean no deep personal connection? They’ve been dating for 3 years

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

noo i realized you can’t see what comment i was replying to. But the other person was comparing their three year relationship to an employee and employer. Def not the same thing.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

Oh I see what you’re saying. I still don’t think it’s ok to distrust someone for no reason and invade their space to reassure yourself, wether that’s as boss to employee or partner to partner. The dynamics are different but it’s bad practice for both. If you lack trust think about why, talk to your partner…etc. don’t just ask to check their phone because it ‘shouldn’t be a problem if they aren’t hiding anything’

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