It’s a delicate balance of taking control of your trauma, fear, and desires. You have to push yourself forward to do it but BE CERTAIN that it happens ON YOUR OWN TERMS. This often translates into some people being more dominant or maybe submissive to take back the power of relinquishing control for example. But above all, DO NOT force yourself just because you are horny or curious or even if you’re just tired of feeling that way. Your fear is valid but not impossible to beat!

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I dated my gf for 2 years before we had sex. We met when she was 19 dated for 2 months, I tried to initiate sex, she got really upset. We broke up. Stayed friends. I asked her verbally 3 times over the course of a year if she wanted more. She said no but her body language and only dating girls made me think (maybe one day). That one day happened a year ago, and we've been together regular daily or more sex since. She was SA'ed when she was really young though. Cur herself a bit, and eating di

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