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What are everyone’s thoughts on dating only with the goal of marriage and settling down together in the future? I just feel like dating for “experience” is basically playing with someone’s feelings
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Anonymous 4w

I think dating for experience/for fun is fine in high school. Most people at that age aren’t sure of what they want. A lucky few will find the one at that age most of us won’t. Once you’re no longer a teenager I think it is a bit cruel to date someone without the intention of staying together. Maybe if you’re really straightforward about the fact that you don’t want to settle down yet it could be okay but I don’t think most people would want that.

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Anonymous 4w

I think it’s fine as long as both parties are on the same page

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Anonymous 4w

I agree and I only dated long enough to determine if she was the one. If not I moved on

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Anonymous 4w

Eh idk thinking about marriage before getting into every relationship is a bit intense

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Anonymous 4w

After college I feel like you need to be more serious idk

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Anonymous 4w

That’s how it’s supposed to be, getting serious. It is gonna be your partner for the rest of you life, choose wisely

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Anonymous 3w

Because it’s the internet culture. Gone are the days people knowing their neighbor. Thus the social map and history isn’t known to where it’s a jungle. When another human is seen in the jungle, the question is friend or foe. With no history of the person, no real proof can be made and thus people today make a gambling bet decision. This gambling decision is what toxic people live off of because their history doesn’t follow them to be toxic to others.

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Anonymous 4w

This post is what I mean when I say something is wrong with y'all. When it comes to love sex dating family and marriage

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 3w

It is a paradox how this works. Logically it’s best to know people overtime before going out. I have done this via hobbies and events meeting the same people consistently. What I learned is that people don’t want to spend the time to know others and basically gamble with people they don’t know. They can’t avoid the toxicity that way. Then all the trauma and bad experiences builds overtime that becomes barriers to meet.

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 3w

To me this will get worse as the internet expands replacing real culture. AI I believe will expand its use when video, audio, and text combine seamlessly that people will seek AI for friendship and companionship and avoid real people. Not everyone will do this but as a culture this will grow to where the jungle will be more deranged and dystopian.

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