Anonymous #1 2w

Cs that’s what I thought, cs not only did he make it sound like that he thought there was better but that he had to settle for me bc I was the only one patient enough to deal with him

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Anonymous OP 2w

also sort of blaming you for his bad behavior because you put up with it? just not the kind of thing a good person would ever say

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Anonymous #3 2w

1. As far as the people in his life, it’s me, his mom, his three younger siblings, his best friend he’s had for nine years, and one other coworker who he considers a friend (he also TECHNICALLY has a few other friends, which includes his best friend’s partner, but he doesn’t consider them friends because they’re all too annoying for one reason or another) 2. He has referred to himself as an AH multiple times, but it seemed like it was humor at first, this was the first he said anything like this

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Anonymous #3 2w

3. He goes between being the best boyfriend I’ve had to someone who can be really hard to be around, it’s starting to depend on the day. Like some days he is doing so much and is being a rock for me while other times he is such a hateful person and it gets to be so hard to be around 4. He does show up for the people around him, but oftentimes, it’s very reluctant (while, for some, he has his reasons, other times he just seems annoyed that it could be viewed as an inconvenience for him)

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Anonymous OP 2w

Oof girl sounds like a trauma bond, def a red flag

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Anonymous #3 2w

I think a lot of it for him is less of it being a trauma bond and more of the fact that he started developing a savior complex? I was only in two other serious relationships before this (with me being the NINTH for him) and both were abusive in their own way and he is kind of prideful in the fact that he’s the first of my partners to not be a massive AH and almost BRAGGED about it at one point that “Oh, I forget you still don’t know what real love feels like” in this almost smug tone

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Anonymous OP 2w

Oof kinda giving narcissistic vibes or just toxic behavior in general, doesn’t sound like a healthy bf

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Anonymous #3 2w

And, granted, he’s gotten a lot better with a lot of his behaviors since being with me (and especially after I’d call him out on it), but some of these things (like this) are piling up so much that it feels overwhelming with the idea of having to have so many conversations about it

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Anonymous OP 2w

Yeah, so is it even worth it if u have to teach him how to be a decent human? I’ve been there before and it’s draining.

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Anonymous #3 2w

(Also, I apologize if the responses are coming really fast, this is just the first time I’m truly letting this off my chest) but, I’m not too sure anymore. He always tells me how much he appreciates me being patient and admires me for what I do, but, it’s starting to become exhausting

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