
In my experience, it was kinda expected that I already see them as humans when I was never taught how to love anyone (it wasn’t common sense for me as a kid). Later on, everyone in my family started pushing me to get a girlfriend like it’s an accomplishment, not true love. So in a way, it’s more about what we’re taught and how it’s pushed. If I didn’t stop obsessing over girls as a kid, I may have fallen for this viewpoint also.