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My bf (21) is struggling to make friends. He’s pretty shy, but he goes love a good beer and he’s really big into legos. The friends he does have are horrible influences, & honestly treat him like shit. Any advice on how he can put himself out there more??
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Anonymous 5d

I say this because when you have a gf and then eventually kids you’ll have all the relationships you need

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Anonymous 5d

I jus went to take a second to recognize what an amazing girlfriend you sound like. I’ve known too many girls in my time that try to isolate and alienate their bfs from their friends. It happened to me with my ex too so I just want to say thank you for being you and actually caring about your bfs social wellbeing outside of yourself. I hope he finds some awesome friends and I hope you both have a long and wholesome relationship

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Anonymous 5d

Ask him to socialize with your friends. Or other girls that you know.

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Anonymous 5d

I mean honestly I am same age haven’t had gf in years if I had a gf life is good enough. Truth is your man doesn’t need friends if he has you so hmu im single

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Anonymous replying to -> og_littlepenis 5d

Thank you! Genuinely. I’ve tried my best to try to stay out of his friendships, even if I don’t necessarily agree with them. This past December, they hit him their car and left him for dead in the middle of the street. He’s been pretty depressed, rightly so, and I just feel horrible. I just want him to be around people that love him as much as I do & want him to be happy and succeed!! I wish you all the best ❤️

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5d

Getting him out of a bad situation is one thing. Getting him out and then isolating him from everyone else is when it’s bad. You clearly want him to have other people in his life besides you and that’s a beautiful thing to see

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5d

you have a point actually. my dad still has a few friends ofc, as well as acquaintances and contacts and stuff, but he enjoys spending time with his family (my mom, my siblings and i, and his brothers) over anyone else

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 5d

He does this and he’s super good! Doesn’t struggle whatsoever. I think it’s something with guys. He grew up closer to his mom and sister, so I think it’s easier for him to talk to girls over guys. He gets real in his head anytime he talks to another guy.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5d

I’m cracking up. This is very true. I think he just misses out on the boy time. I have a few friends, but most of my time is with him. When I’m with those friends, I can tell he’s lonely and feels left out.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5d

So maybe that’s the way. Some guys need to be with the boys, others maybe not.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5d

i grew up with my mom and sister but a brotherhood (friends wise since i have no brother) is still important, if he likes a good beer go too a pool hall or some local brewery, people are social when drinking

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