I’m not really a hookup kinda gal, I do prefer relationships I guess I’m just not wanting that right now at this point in my life.. I haven’t found anyone that makes me feel like it’s worth it to take that risk I suppose

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Anonymous OP 5w

I mean you had sex with the guy 3 times. If I was the guy I would get the same impression as well.

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Anonymous #2 5w

why?? we barely know each other. most of our time has been solely intimacy and no real connecting. no dates. no nothing.

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Anonymous OP 5w

And that’s your problem. You said above you “prefer relationships” yet had casual sex with the same guy 3 times. Unfortunately, now it will be harder for you to find someone since you didn’t value the true purpose of sex.

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Anonymous #2 5w

what? why would that make it harder to find someone? there is no one true purpose to sex, it has many purposes.

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Anonymous #2 5w

i do prefer relationships. I’ve been in multiple long term relationships over my life. this was literally my first hookup.

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Anonymous OP 5w

“Multiple.” Also to answer your other question: a person (especially men) wouldn’t want to date someone who had sex a lot with different people. Your “multiple, long-term relationships” didn’t work out, and wanting to try something new, have dig a deeper hole by essentially using this poor guy for his body.

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Anonymous #2 5w

he didn’t even make me c*m. I wasn’t using him for his body, I think he’s sweet. I just don’t think he’d be a good partner due to other reasons. fuck you for thinking body count determines my worth, you’re a dog.

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Anonymous #3 4w

yeah.. he was strong enough to cut things off and im proud of him for that. i honestly regret the whole thing, i guess I should’ve stopped it all when i realized i didn’t feel as cared for as i hoped, cuz i did consider working things out with him.. but I don’t know. i think this is for the best.

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Anonymous OP 4w

yeah, things get messy with these sorts of arrangements, but I’m glad you both made it out. now that it’s over, if i were you, I’d focus more on the positive experiences rather than whatever regrets or hurt you may feel over it, just because nothing good will ever come of feeling crappy about it

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Anonymous #4 4w

thanks… like I said I prefer to fall in love and all, I just didn’t really plan for that right now. I guess I just wanted to know what it was like but I wish I was more careful about it. Thank you very much though :)

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Anonymous #3 4w

You’re right. My psychologist thinks I’ve got OCD mainly with like repetitive thoughts and stuff more mental so it probably contributes to my stress about it lol..

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Anonymous #4 4w

And just to add, I feel like I could’ve been clearer… but I thought he understood that I wasn’t sure about what I wanted and I didn’t realize his ultimate end goal was a relationship. Ehhhh..

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Anonymous OP 4w

Maybe you could’ve been clearer, but he also could’ve like. Taken you on dates and made it clear from his end too, yanno? Sex does not a relationship make Don’t beat yourself up over it <3

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Anonymous #4 4w

yeahhh that’s kinda why I didn’t assume he wanted that cuz he never asked me on a real date or nothin :( thank you for the reassurance I will be better in the future (but I probably won’t go for this sort of arrangement again either)

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Obviously not what I meant. Sit down.

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Anonymous OP 4w

I apologize that my comment made you think that. I also apologize for the dog rebuttal. I am not saying you’re any less human by having a higher body count than others, although in society people may back off or be hesitant from entering a romantic relationship of those aspects if known. Additionally, I can only use what you give me, as I don’t know the entire story. Wdym “I think he’s sweet”? Is that why you slept with him 3 times? If not then why?

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Anonymous #2 4w

I appreciate the apology. And if that’s a reason for someone to stay away from me then so be it… And yes, ik you don’t have full context, but essentially I guess so? I also thought him and I could work but the more I got to know him (which again isn’t much cuz we still don’t know each-other well), the more I realized we just probably couldn’t. He told me he has the patience for this sort of thing, to figure it out with me, and I find that extremely admirable but it didn’t seem right

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Anonymous #2 4w

And as I previously stated, this was my first (and likely last) real hookup that was consensual. I regret hurting him, I tried to navigate the situation properly, but i guess I know now that I should’ve communicated my intent sooner- I just thought most assumed a hookup didn’t necessarily lead to romance, unless stated otherwise.

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