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How do I cope with the realization that my ex assaulted me while we were dating?? I don’t know how to handle it and I’m not coping well
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Anonymous 1d

Therapy

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Anonymous 1d

Talk to a trusted friend about it. I had the same thing happen and didn’t really process it until years later, talking in a more casual setting was extremely helpful

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Anonymous 1d

Uhh normalize verbalizing or taking action when you’ve been affected instead of coping with the “realization” months later.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

I am doing that but it’s not working atm 🥲

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

I’m sorry! But stick with it, unfortunately this is a huge emotion to process and it’s going to take time. But you can absolutely do it!

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 12h

Let’s not blame the victim for not responding how you like. It’s hard to deal with something you may have never experienced before. We all here are assuming they’re telling the truth I think you may be assuming something else.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 12h

Right… not all assault or rape is obvious or overtly violent. It can be as subtle as being coerced into having sex or performing a sexual act that you didn’t want to engage in. Especially if it’s in a relationship, it’s easy to excuse it as normal.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 8h

Fr, best to keep sex out of relationships. It only creates a point for conflict.

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