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I’m 23 still living at home out I told my mom this morning before work “hey I didn’t have time this week to straighten up don’t let cleaners in my room” I get off work and she went through my room found all my adult things and left my diary open I’mpissed
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Anonymous 4w

You have a right to privacy. Who tf opens another person’s diary

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Anonymous 4w

I seen this at the bus stop. Maybe contact them when you get enough money saved. Goodluck!! Take care of yourself!

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Anonymous 4w

You should definitely try to get your own place, you can’t have stable relationships or a stable sense of self with individuals who don’t know how to even respect your basic boundaries. You deserve privacy and the feeling of respect.

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Anonymous 4w

What should I do? How do I tell her to back tf off my personal life

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Anonymous 4w

what adult things

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Anonymous 4w

Oh my goodness, are you in trouble haha

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Anonymous 4w

Does she own the house? Thats her right…. She is not at fault at all. You are a 23 year old adult. If you dont want her going through your stuff, move out, and then you will have the real privacy you want. I get it, times are tough and rent is expensive, but obviously not too tough for your family if you have “cleaners.”

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

I’m genuinely pissed they crossed a boundary

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

She was probably helping you clean, I believe she meant well

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

Okay no need to go though all my stuff in the process and lay out all the shit I didnt want her to see on my bed

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

Yeah you gotta have a conversation about boundaries and you’re totally justified to feel pissed, maybe just wait until you can speak to her calmly for greater success

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

I’m at the gym rn

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

Yeah this is the best answer. Privacy is a huge necessity to being an individual. I’m a parent and the only reason I would ever breach this boundary is if there were serious signs of drug use, self harm, or some other horrible thing I don’t want to imagine. It would have to be extremely obvious though. I’m sorry this happened to you, it will alter how you interact and behave going forward and that totally sucks

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 4w

I bought everything in that room myself I work 2 jobs ofc in trying too move out I don’t get a lick of that money in fact for a while they were taking money out my my account before I separated my bank account from theirs…

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 4w

I’m not self harming myself and I did have thc/cbd gummies in my drawer, but that’s bc I work 2 jobs and it helps me destress and sleep at night I’m not bringing it around family/friends/work or any type of outings Ik there’s a time and place and I buy it legally so it’s not outrageously horrible I’m not on anything else I don’t even smoke it

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

Also you’re 23 so idt you doing gummies is their business

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

this isnt local people you know

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